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Nov 03, 2015, 02:42 PM
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Having a bad morning. I just returned from a trip and really had nobody to share the experience with. So I tried to share it with to few acquaintances I have (the barista at the coffe shop, my neighbor, the store clerk, etc.) but was mostly ignored. Yeah I got a few head nods and it sounds like you had a good time but it wasn't really sharing the experience. This left me with the familiar paralysis as I sat in my chair looking at the wall between me and everything else. I've always been envious of others because it doesn't seem like they're always desperately trying to get somebody's attention. And I've always felt like a mental case when I walk by strangers making random comments just to feel like I haven't died. The response is usually strange glances that makes the glass grow thicker between me and them. What's it like to sit comfortably with someone and drink coffee or tell somebody you had a miserable day and have them actually care. I don't know and I'm exhausted at trying to pretend that I'm okay- the plastic bag around my head grows tighter and I can barley breathe. I tell myself there is always music and food but over the years even these friends have lost their medicinal abilities. I don't know why I'm here or why I was chosen to be on such a cold dark road - all I know is that this is way too hard.
Last edited by Macd123; Nov 03, 2015 at 04:08 PM. |
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Nov 03, 2015, 04:12 PM
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Should be When in the title.
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Nov 03, 2015, 04:20 PM
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I am sorry you are struggling. Honestly it is pretty common for strangers to not listen to other people stories or not respond to random comments .
Baristas and store clerks are not really acquaintances , they are just doing their jobs ( unless you know them outside of their jobs), it is understandable they are not engaging in conversations beyond common courtesy. Those people that you see comfortably chatting aren't doing it with strangers. They are doing it with people they know. Have you tried meetup groups as I previously suggested? You can share with them. I am having meetup even this Friday night and then following Sunday. Why dont you try that? Also would you consider having a part time job just to keep busy? You said you are retired, but many retired people keep part time jobs. Having too much free time could be detrimental or did you try to volunteer? Hospital? Nursing home? Shelter? Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk |
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Nov 03, 2015, 04:53 PM
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I have felt what you are describing. You feel so isolated and so lonely it actually causes a physical aching. ((((Macd)))) you aren't alone.
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Nov 03, 2015, 05:34 PM
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Reading your posts you sound intelligent and articulate, I'm sure lots of people would like to converse with you - you just haven't connected with them yet.
The post above has some good suggestions, regarding groups, volunteering etc - it's a good way to meet similar people. |
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Nov 03, 2015, 06:13 PM
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It's been suggested before, on many occasions. I went as far as suggesting that I will find meetup groups in op's area if he wants to. I don't know what else to suggest. Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk |
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