[ScientiaOmnisEst]

It seems all my personal problem threads go here...and what I really need is legal advice and moral support.

It seems every threads are about dealing with my mother.

I messed up my insurance. I never called my new physician so he kicked me out and the letter was sent to my mother's address.

My mother is going to try to force me to come home.

She says that this incident proves I lack the basic skills to live by myself and get a job, and that by having me live at home and work around the house, I'll gain all the necessary skills for life. You know, the ones I should have learned growing up.

I'm 211 and 4 months ago I basically ran away from home to get out of that hellhole that was causing my to collapse mentally. Hell, my mother still won't stop calling me even though I've started answering the phone with screams or insults. Last night I was truly suicidal and she still wouldn't leave me alone, even though her meddling was making everything worse (including tearing up about her own insecurities...who the **** does that?? Cries about their own problems while trying to comfort someone who just finished self-harming). I'm sorry, but our insurance is not so complicated and involved that she needs to call me 20 to!es a day. And every call is torture. All I want is for her to leave me alone. That's all I've wanted for years.

Another aspect of it is forcing me into psych treatment, which I wouldn't mind except for her history of meddling with my treatment and the fact that living with her is going to create a whole new set of problems.

I'm desperate to not go back there. I'm afraid I really will kill myself if I have to live there again. But my mother says she can legally force me to move back. She's talked about having me declared a Person in Need of Supervision, even though I'm too old...or legally disowning me so she never has to talk to me. ButI'm getting scared, especially if the law is on her side and I really do have to be taken away. But I'd sooner go to prison than back there.

I guess...will anyone even listen to me?

[Bill3]

Have you considered speaking with an attorney in your state, and/or researching the law on your own?

What if you don't pick up when she calls?

If you get treatment she cannot be involved in your treatment unless you allow that in writing.

[ComfortablyNumb5]

Wow. It sounds like your mom has some major issues dealing with the empty nest. I can't believe she calls you that much with threats on top of that! She can't force anything on you unless you do actually harm yourself. Just stop answering her calls. I left home the very second I turned 18 and the thought of ever going back scares the crap out of me so I get why that's out of the question. Be strong and stand your ground. Let her know you are fine and you don't need the constant hand holding. Good luck!

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[ChipperMonkey]

Run.

Get as far away from her as you can. She is trying to control you.

I think consulting legal aid would be beneficial.

PS the law is NOT on her side. She's just trying to manipulate you and scare you.

I've dealt with a similar problem before that maybe you can relate to. My parent use to yell and scream at me about how I was worthless and could never survive on my own. So, I continued to be dependent on them even after I turned 18. I was absolutely terrified to live on my own after how they described life and how I was so weak and incapable. Funny enough, they were purposely making me weak and dependent on them. Even now their words occasionally come back to haunt me.

You already have the skills needed to live right. People who are much less intelligent (you seem really smart) live on their own just fine.

Another aspect of it is forcing me into psych treatment, which I wouldn't mind except for her history of meddling with my treatment and the fact that living with her is going to create a whole new set of problems.

That's a very logical conclusion.

What was really happening with my parent is that they were terrified of me leaving and finding out life was much better without them, which is ironically what happened, but that parent has already passed away, sadly. I recommend that you don't believe your mother and keep her out of your life in a professional way that a capable and strong adult would, so if she does involve anyone, you will appear to be the wiser and more capable one. I agree with RxQueen875 and think you should stand your ground. I'm rooting for you!