[Fuzzybear]

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wonderful bear

[Rohag]

Originally Posted by Fuzzybear

I'm a "people pleaser" at times, and when I am.... I don't much like myself.

Me too. My "people pleasing" started way back in childhood, and I strongly suspect it was in the interest of one or more of my family members that I be a people pleaser. This has not served me well in life.

Originally Posted by Fuzzybear

I'm not somebody who pretends to care.

Though it can at times be a gift difficult to bear (no pun intended), you are truly gifted and you do truly care.

Originally Posted by Fuzzybear

I wish I'd been smart enough to get back at the bullies who attacked me and abused me throughout school...

Was it a matter of "smarts"? Your intelligence is linked to every part of your personality, and exercising your intelligence in ways that might have hurt others - even bullies - was and is foreign to you.

Originally Posted by Fuzzybear

The parents said "just ignore them".

How many times have parents and caregivers raised children to be concerned with what others think and then told them to "just ignore" those same people? Mixed messages...

Originally Posted by Fuzzybear

if a therapist IRL said "I want to look after you properly" would you trust them?

Were a therapist to say that to me, I would want them to clarify what they meant. "What does 'look after me properly' mean - both in theory and practice?"

I'm sorry the meds haven't worked for you. You've given them a decent trial.

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[Fuzzybear]

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Thanks dear Rohag, I'm glad you saw and replied before I edited it (not sure why I edited it)

Originally Posted by Rohag

Me too. My "people pleasing" started way back in childhood, and I strongly suspect it was in the interest of one or more of my family members that I be a people pleaser. This has not served me well in life.

Though it can at times be a gift difficult to bear (no pun intended), you are truly gifted and you do truly care.

Was it a matter of "smarts"? Your intelligence is linked to every part of your personality, and exercising your intelligence in ways that might have hurt others - even bullies - was and is foreign to you.

How many times have parents and caregivers raised children to be concerned with what others think and then told them to "just ignore" those same people? Mixed messages...

Were a therapist to say that to me, I would want them to clarify what they meant. "What does 'look after me properly' mean - both in theory and practice?"

I'm sorry the meds haven't worked for you. You've given them a decent trial.

((((((( Fuzzybear )))))))