[madmusican]

Have you ever been so much in love that it hurts?? I mean, I cant eat, I cant sleep, I can't think of anything else but this person. That gut-wrenching, heart-stopping kinda love. Like nothing else in the world matters.......with one slight problem








I am married and these feelings are not towards my husband.........I have NEVER felt like this about my husband...........and now, I just dont know what to do!!!!

[Direction]

Yes for both...

I'm forgetful...do you have kids? has there been a growing gap with your husband?

[madmusican]

no kids, and yes my hub and i have become quite distant recently

[Direction]

Have you two every discussed sepation or divorce before? any marital counseling? etc?

[madmusican]

no, havent discussed anything to do with our relationship really, just drifted apart.......everytime i try to talk to him about it, he starts crying and i feel guilty, i dont tell him what I want to say.

[Direction]

probably time to gently talk about this...D word was off limits in my marriage and I think it hurt it more than helped it...I think had we separated for a year - we would still be married...

Yes Laura. i have, no sleep, no eating, constant thoughts about other person, felt on top of the world. i hear you. i hear you loud and clear.

life is never easy.

here for you, love you, kerry xoxoxoxoxoxoxoxo

[Rhapsody]

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madmusican said:
i dont tell him what I want to say.

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Maybe it is time to start - for one cannot fix that which they are not aware of.
... or let go of that which is no longer theirs.

[Wants2Fly]

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madmusican said:
Have you ever been so much in love that it hurts?? I mean, I cant eat, I cant sleep, I can't think of anything else but this person. That gut-wrenching, heart-stopping kinda love. Like nothing else in the world matters.......with one slight problem


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I have experienced these feelings, and I do not believe they are love, at least not in my definition of love. But that's me. I'm a bit of a mystic, and my ideas about what love are influenced by that. If I'm twisted up in knots, I figure it's about my needs -- for excitement, lust, etc, my hormones, my pheromones.

[meander]

Madmusician,

Yep. After much drama over a three year period, we're living together now. But over the time period it's kind of faded to something that I would call more real, as in I know that I can live without him if I must although I wouldn't want to, and that while he's the brightest star in my sky he's not the sun. It's more... grounded. I think that first rush, while exciting, can sometimes be confusing, cause you can mix up the image of who they really are with who you want them to be.

If that makes sense.

I don't have anything much to say about the marriage thing, since it's way out of my experience to date. But for the sake of your own well-being, it'd probably be good to keep on acting honourably with respect to your husband, and call it a day before venturing onto anything with the new person.