[toolman65]

Let me start by saying that I am 50 ,single and male. My partner is 52, separated, in the process of getting divorced and female.

She has 2 daughters from her marriage. The younger one accepts that mom and dad are finished and has been supportive of mom finding someone new.

Her older daughter is a different story. She has trouble accepting that the marriage is over. She wants her parents to reconcile because it "looks bad" that they split.

Recently, i was visiting my partner ( we live in different cities) when i noticed she was agitated. Turns out the older daughter was due to drop by and return an item that evening. We went to the den and started watching TV. The doorbell rang and my partner ran to the door, got the item, exchanged a few pleasantries with her daughter and shut the door.

Later, when i went to the hallway to get my shoes, i noticed that they had been moved. Along with my keys, wallet and phone. No traces of me.

I have never met the older daughter and i feel my partner wants to keep it that way. I understand that meeting me may upset her, but is it realistic of my partner to expect me to go into hiding whenever the risk that we may meet arises?

This whole experience has left me feeling bruised.

The older daughter is 28, married and has two daughters of her own.

My partner has admitted that she enables her daughter. That is her deal.

Where do i draw the line?

I'm sorry you are going through this, it sounds really tough. Can you mention to your partner how you are feeling and maybe ask to be introduced to her daughter? If nothing else it will bring up a good discussion and you can hear her feelings on the matter. Warm wishes to you!