Bf is in the hospital. Chose this time to tell me how he REALLY feels.

Or sometimes people actually don't know how to ask for certain things.


I'm 31 and only learning to ask (for anything) or state my needs clearly now. Not due to passive aggressiveness, but because I've always had to look out for myself, since I was a child, and when I did dare ask someone or depend on them to come through for me, they usually failed me miserably.


I didn't imply that RX should have read his mind... I clearly stated that in her bf's shoes, I wouldn't have expected a text like that to even come into existence, and would've responded in the very same manner. In his shoes, I would just expect my partner to be there. End of story. Not ask me if they should be there for me in my time of need, and never in a million years would I ask someone to stay with me at the hospital. If they want to, they will.

In my (admittedly twisted) mind, that text would be my partner wanting permission from me to opt out, instead of wanting reassurance that I want them close.

So while my view may be skewed by my own demons, many of us have similar ones, and I was just trying to provide a sneak peak into a different mindset.

Does he have bpd ?

He sounds bpd , and passive aggressive is a bpd behavior

Passive aggressive isn't enough to diagnose anyone with anything let alone over the Internet. To me it sounds he is overwhelmed with responsibilities and his illness.

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He sounds bpd , and passive aggressive is a bpd behavior

I'm not sure that I have read anything on this thread that makes it sound like he has BPD. Any PD requires a "pervasive pattern of behavior." Anyone/Everyone can be passive aggressive sometimes. It's a communication style, not a disorder.