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Dec 11, 2015, 02:56 PM
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Hi all,
So I suppose I am just frustrated, but I'm looking for a bit of outside insight. I'm currently going to a vocational school studying esthetics, and am surrounded primarily by young women just out of highschool, which is it's own bag of worms. I'm 24, and I consider myself to be empathic and emotionally sensitive. I usually get along mostly with men or with women that are very down to earth, enjoy dirty jokes, and are drama free. Therefore at school I am generally pretty reserved and don't let my classmates in because they are all quite judgemental. That being said, my real question is about the way my professor has been acting towards me. When I first began the course, she was very welcoming and approving of me. She would often talk to me, and gave me compliments such as remarking on how professional I was. She would tell me in front of the whole class how I "had it going on" and how beautiful my skin was etc etc. This made me uncomfortable, but it was within the realm of our discussions on skin (esthetics). Then, I had to go home sick a couple days and after that her demeanor towards me began to change. A few weeks later I got a job painting a mural for.good money out of state and had to miss a day of school... I approached her professionally and explained why I was missing a day, and she just slowly turned around while I was talking to her and said nothing! After that she stopped talkinlg to me, has generally been ignoring me in class, and has been acting as though I'm not a good student even though I have very good grades and work very hard in school. She does this to other students I've seen, and also has a couple favorites she is sweet to. Yesterday, I took the day off from school because my friend just passed away. I sent her an email explaining this, and wished her a happy weekend... She has said nothing in return. What is this all about? Why are people so fickle? It seems very unprofessional to me. |
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Dec 11, 2015, 03:25 PM
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Check your contract. I went to nail school where like you i was much older than many in the school. Anyway, the school hours will have to be made up at the end of the training period, because in order to get your license, you have to have had x hours of training in each specific subject. So it really messes up their accounting to the state about your training, it probably cuts into her free vacation time between semesters, and is generally a pain for them to deal with. Btw, i would get the star for the worst attendance at work or school ever, starting with my first real job after college, so... im telling ya, you could be the WORST at your occupation, at any job in the world - but if you showed up early every day? They would make you president of the company. Only slightly kidding. Thats how much companies like good attendance, even over being brilliant. Cuz im brilliant and nobody cared except when they were in a pickle. when the pickle was over, they said dont let the door hit you in the butt on your way out.
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Dec 11, 2015, 04:01 PM
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Dec 11, 2015, 04:25 PM
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You did what you were supposed to do, by informing her whenever you needed to take an absence from class. This is what I do also, with my professors.
Unfortunately, she seems to have come to the judgmental conclusion that because you miss a class, that you don't care about learning what she is teaching. She can't really expect someone to skip out on a funeral for her class. I was also in a classroom a few years ago, where a professor bullied the two oldest students in the class - me and another student. I don't know if there is a connection there or not, I often wonder if professors have issues with older students. I decided to do what I needed to do to finish the course, and then forget about her. I did write up a negative review of her on the "rate your profs" website. I saw that some other former students of hers had also written negative reviews about her. |
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Dec 11, 2015, 05:01 PM
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yes it sounds a bit odd for this to happen. sometimes i think alot of professors are set in their ways and any little change affects them. or maybe you caught them in a bad time too.
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Dec 11, 2015, 05:10 PM
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Maybe she's one of those weirdos who loves people until they "cross" her and then she hates them? Not much you can do about this, unfortunately. She definitely seems to fit this pattern since she went on and on and on about your fabulous skin....and now she won't even respond to you? You were put up on a pedestal and then she knocked you down below her. Sounds catty, dramatic, and so on. Very unprofessional.
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Dec 12, 2015, 11:37 AM
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Well she is just a professor ( I'd say maybe just an instructor?) and isn't there to be your friend. Maybe she realized she was Unprofessional giving you
Compliments or maybe someone told her to knock it off.. Just go to lectures and pass your classes. I wouldn't worry about her Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk |
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