[Katieissweet]

Do you believe in the idea of the one,have you met "the one"
I've met many soulmates,but none of them felt like "the one"

[Yoda]

no, do not believe in the one

not in people terms anyway; my horse, Dusty, was the love of my life though

[RomanSunburn]

I believe in my "the one." I've been very, very lucky. We were friends of friends in high school, started dating long distance in college on a whim 10 years ago, and got married three and half years ago. I truly believe there is no one else that could love me or understand me the way he does. I am so grateful to have him in my life.

[DechanDawa]

Nah. But I dare him to show up.

[Trippin2.0]

I do, and yes I have met him, met him when I was 13, became bffs but only discovered he was "the one" at 16, and only ended up with him at 25, after his travels had separated us for 7 years.

[divine1966]

I think there may be more "ones" than just one person. There might be more people out there suited for us. My BF seems like " the one" for me. We are planning on getting engaged soon. There is nothing spectacular about him. He is just right. We are 50. Both were married and raised kids and repeatedly attracted wrong people. I had a lot of partners in my search for a soul mate. All difficult like my father, so not the "one"

So took that long to meet the one who isn't difficult .


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[Webgoji]

Married to her.

[leomama]

Originally Posted by Katieissweet

Do you believe in the idea of the one,have you met "the one"

I've met many soulmates,but none of them felt like "the one"

Absolutely not, I think that's something people can use to manipulate you. Relationships are something you make work or not, with a lot of work. There is no ideal person. You do your pros and cons with the person you're with and if the pros outweigh the cons you stay and if you don't you leave. It's that simple.

Been married to him for almost 28 years now. My mom married her "one" 63 years ago. Yes, I absolutely believe in "the one."

[BlossomingLen]

No, I personally don't believe in "the one." Sure, I'm in a happy relationship and I love him to pieces. We've been together for almost two and a half years. But I don't think we were made for each other or that we're like matching puzzle pieces or something. We do make each other happy and support each other and that's all that matters.

[ChipperMonkey]

Please define "the one".

I am a very literal person. You ask me if I believe in "the one" and I say its statistically impossible given that there are 7 billion+ people in the world. And then when you take in to account time parameters, whoa. Yeah, you'd never find the one.

I'm marrying him in May. Neither of us is perfect but we are perfectly imperfect for each other. We've both been married before. For each of us this relationship feels different, better, than the others. So ya, this time I've found the one.

[Onward2wards]

I do not believe in "the one"; I believe in levels of compatibility. A very high degree of compatibility may well feel like "the one".

No I don't believe in 'the one', I also believe in degrees of compatibility, and that can sometimes change throughout a relationship as people change and grow from experiences. So a couple who were initially very well suited may be less well so 10/20/30 years down the line.

If you look around you can see people who either grew apart over a period of time or lost their partner through death - they can then go on to have another equally happy long lasting relationship with another person.

[DBTDiva]

Originally Posted by Katieissweet

Do you believe in the idea of the one,have you met "the one"
I've met many soulmates,but none of them felt like "the one"

I do believe in soulmates, the Elizabeth Gilbert interpretation of them which is the best I've ever heard: “People think a soul mate is your perfect fit, and that's what everyone wants. But a true soul mate is a mirror, the person who shows you everything that is holding you back, the person who brings you to your own attention so you can change your life.

A true soul mate is probably the most important person you'll ever meet, because they tear down your walls and smack you awake. But to live with a soul mate forever? Nah. Too painful. Soul mates, they come into your life just to reveal another layer of yourself to you, and then leave.

A soul mates purpose is to shake you up, tear apart your ego a little bit, show you your obstacles and addictions, break your heart open so new light can get in, make you so desperate and out of control that you have to transform your life, then introduce you to your spiritual master...”

I've definitely had one of those. As far as "the one" I don't really know if I believe we are fated to be with one particular person. I think there's many people that we are compatible with, and maybe if we all do what we need to do to be the best versions of ourselves maybe we get the best version of someone else? I defintely didn't believe someone like my boyfriend existed and he didn't think I existed so when we met it was pretty suprising for us both. We have both done SO MUCH work in therapy over the years, if one of us hadn't gotten healthy enough we for sure would not have ended up together. I can say he's the one for me and I plan to spend the rest of my life with him, I can't imagine a better fit and even if one were to come along I'd stick with the one I've got. I do call my dog "the love of my life" though and my boyfriend is cool with that. Lol.

[continuosly blue]

Like what was said. If you feel you got the" one " then it's true , for you at that time.

And your partner may feel the same about you , or not.

I think human beings were made not to be able to read each others minds for a reason. If people could read minds the human race wouldn't be around right now.

Since love is based on feelings I give it a very low score on the right or wrong index ,( Meaning ,you may "feel" it's the one ,but you don't know logically )

I think there are 10 zillion possibilities out there. And even if you find " the one " there's no way of knowing if there is somebody else out there who if you met could wind up being "the one".

Disclaimer : I was almost married for 40 years so I might be a little biased.

[Lauliza]

I believe in true love and I believe in soul mates which I think is along the same lines. I don't believe in "the one" per se because that implies there really is only one person for you on this earth, and I disagree with this. I believe we feel someone is "the one", but things change and I think when they do, you can always find another.

[NewCommer]

Hope you people do, because i'm starting to believe that is not true at all.
Sorry form my pessimism, but if you take a look around you'll see.
Please, correct me if i'm wrong

[brainhi]

With time I came to realize that the relationship is "part" of my journey. It will be exhilarating and it will be painful and somewhere in between. There are those that take "one" with them on the whole journey - not sure what percentage of those are truly happy with their decision. If you say - the one - what happens in your mind if it does not work out? It does not have to be failure... it was an experience.. because you would hope there would be the two or three or whatever.

When I married - I did think at the time I would be with him the rest of my life. We were together a decade - no regrets, learned a lot and now pretty sure there will not be just the "one" as the journey continues. But if I do choose the one - for the rest of the ride .. and it works - great!