[imstarlord89]

For the past eight years I have been in love with a friend whom does share the same feelings for me as I do her. It started as just friends but over time my love grew for her. I never told her that I love her but it was obvious and she found out from other friends and she didn't feel the same. My biggest regret in life is letting this happen. I have tried hating her to forget about her but I just can't help being in love with her. Now we haven't talked in over a year but my love for her is stronger now than ever before. This is the worst feeling in the world.

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[NewCommer]

I'm really sorry this is happennig to you. To be honest, i'm in a similar situation right now. BUT i can reassure you that you can love again. Please read carefully, if she doesn't share these feelings, she's missing a great man, because after everything she has done to you, you still love her.
I'm not gonna lie to you, letting her go won't be anything easy, but do it for the sake of yourslef. Also, it will take time, so please make your best effort each day. Look for people you can trust and could help you. Get ALL of this out of your system and remember that there's someone special for you out there. I might know what you're thinking right now: "But i'd wish SHE was the one", I'd also like to tell you that, but it seems she won't be, and i'm REALLY sorry to tel you this, but try to move on man, it's been a year already.
I'm glad you're looking for help, and remember, we're here not only looking for help, but also you can help yourself by helping others.
Be patient, strong and also feed your willpower. You're a strong and a very valuable person, and believe me, YOU'RE happy, WE'RE all happy, but sometimes we forget it.
So, again, thanks for looking for help, it's much worse if you keep it to yourself.
God loves you buddy, best of wishes, merry christmas and remember that you're not alone

Imstarlord, never tell your friends how you feel. People have a big mouth. Lesson learned. And if it has then talk to her and explain how you feel. You cannot hide what has been made known. To not talk about it makes it uncertain to her where she stands with you. You have to clarify with her it is just friends so she won't feel cornered or trapped. And if you cannot handle this and are obsessing about her, then you have lost a friend needlessly because you feared clarifying something you should have the moment it was out of the bag. Talk to her and make it clear, just friends. If you want more than that, then move on. tc

[DBTDiva]

Originally Posted by imstarlord89

For the past eight years I have been in love with a friend whom does share the same feelings for me as I do her. It started as just friends but over time my love grew for her. I never told her that I love her but it was obvious and she found out from other friends and she didn't feel the same. My biggest regret in life is letting this happen. I have tried hating her to forget about her but I just can't help being in love with her. Now we haven't talked in over a year but my love for her is stronger now than ever before. This is the worst feeling in the world.

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The opposite of love isn't hate, hate is still a passionate, involved feeling. Indifference is what you should strive for. You need to move on, find other things to occupy your time. Make new friends, casually date some people. Don't romanticize her, she's not perfect for you because the perfect person for you would feel the same way you do. It is easy to create an idealized version of someone in our heads when we are not actually able to be with them. Have you gone to therapy? You mention your love is stronger now than it was before and you haven't talked in a year, this makes me think it doesn't have as much to do with her as you think it does.