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As a child, you had advantages in some respects, but in others it sounds like you had a very rough time. Those rough times affect you now. They make things hard for you now. |
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People want to be around you, and want to choose you for things if YOU want to be around you. You're talking about how they didn't want you for the chamber orchestra and various things where people with less talent and experience are chosen but that's likely because those people sell themselves. They're confident, they may make a case for themselves, I get the impression that you would say "ok" and then use it to back up your low opinion of yourself. If you don't like you, no one else is going to either. Teaching at a collegiate level is highly competetive and if you go into it thinking you won't get a job then you're going to prove yourself right. The only thing limiting you as far as I can see is your own attitude and beliefs about yourself. Yes networking plays a part, but introverts get great jobs too. No one in my family works in my field. My family is not well known in my city. I hate networking, I despise small talk, I'm socially kind of odd and different because I was homeschooled K-12 so I'm just not used to interacting with people constantly. I would rather eat nails that go to an event and talk to a bunch of people I don't know, and mostly I don't. I may push myself to do it more when I have to, but no job I've had has been based on who I know. It helps but it's not a necessity. Confidence will get you much further than talent though, it sucks but it's true. That's why people who are less accomplished and less talented than you seem to always do better than you, IMO. Quote:
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