[Direction]

Looks like I'm alienating my IRL friends...one isn't returning my call...forget I don't feel like posting any more...

[therealme]

(((((((((((((direction)))))))))))))

you still have your cyber friends

[Direction]

I just want to crawl up in some hole and never come out...

[Sabrina]

I understand that - my bed is often the safest and kindest place for me, during the day though since I battle to sleep at night.

I don't have any IRL friends but I so very often don't feel like posting .... even though I know it could bring me some measure of comfort.

(((direction)))

[asylumgardens]

I understand what you mean Direction. I barely have anyone in real life that I feel close with anymore.. I've pushed them all away.

One note is, though, that maybe your friend that isn't returning your calls is having his/her own problem and it's not that they are mad at you for anything. I know that probably isn't very comforting, but its a thought.

we understand and we still love you....don't go away

[Wants2Fly]

Direction, I am finding that friends I've had for 30 years are leaving my life. It's hard and makes me feel badly, but my therapist thinks that the relationships were dysfunctional. She suggests that as I get healthier, I need different kinds of friends.

Is it possible, Direction, that you are getting healthier and it's time for you to be in the market for a better class of friend? Just a thought. Maybe it's not you -- maybe it's them.

[meander]

((((Direction))))

Like others have said, don't assume it's your fault. It's probably just something going on with them.

[crushed73]

it will be ok

[sabby]

(((((((((((((Direction)))))))))))))

Sometimes it's hard not to project into a situation our own feelings of inadequacy, especially when it comes to our friends. They may do or say something or even have no contact for awhile with us and we immediately think we did something wrong.

This may or may not be the case. Everyone has their own life and own issues to deal with and sometimes they have absolutely nothing to do with us.

I hope you hear something back from your friend soon so you can feel better at least knowing what your friend's issue is, whether it is with you or with themeselves and their own life.

Hang in there dear one.....I hope you feel better soon!

Hugsssss
J

[SongBirdandDaisy]

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Direction, I am finding that friends I've had for 30 years are leaving my life. It's hard and makes me feel badly, but my therapist thinks that the relationships were dysfunctional. She suggests that as I get healthier, I need different kinds of friends.

Is it possible, Direction, that you are getting healthier and it's time for you to be in the market for a better class of friend? Just a thought. Maybe it's not you -- maybe it's them.

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I isolated myself as well. I think that's a defensive mechanism we all use: it relieves one kind of pain but brings on another.

I had posted that I wasn't ready for this and some dear cyber friends showed me differently. Maybe a shifting paradigm is taking place for you, Direction, and you're outgrowing what your friends can provide for you. They say relationships are always changing and "friendships" are relationships.

Perhaps try looking at this experience as a new oppertunity to expand your friendship base and not as a loss.

[Direction]

I'm glad you are all here...I'm still missing my support system IRL...I'm not sure what will happen if the dark clouds swallow me...

[Wants2Fly]

I was reading a bit of Carl Jung yesterday, and one of the footnotes mentioned how even the greatest mystics can go through a "long dark night of the soul" before finding the light. And that the darkness must exist in order for their to be light. I know you will find your day to the light, Direction.