I am currently separated from my husband because of his emotional outburst and unstable behavior. I was reading an article last night about toxic people and it sounds just like him. I ask him to leave and now I am completely alone with my two children, no money, no one to ask for help, and I'm desperately trying to find a job because he was the only one working while I went to school full time and took care of my daughter with special needs. we only have one car, thank goodness I have that. I have never felt so empty in my life. I don't even know what the problem is with him. He became angry over everything I did, if I loaded the dishwasher wrong I was in trouble, if I did not sit on the couch when he was watching television he would throw his wedding ring and storm out of the house. I don't know what to think about anything

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I am so sorry you are going through this. You do have a car and that is a big plus. You sound very ambitious going to school full time and raising children. I'm proud of you. Please keep posting and let us know how you are doing.

PlumpPrincess, it is better to live walking in faith than live walking in fear. Fear is not an environment to raise children in, for they may turn that fear into hatred because of it. I do believe that you will make it, one day at a time. Just keep asking for help for it is the sqeeky wheel that gets heard. Call every social organization you know of for help, for paid training to get a job, for food stamps, for heating assistance, for everything. And don't feel ashamed because you must do what you have to for your two children. I will pray for you for the strength to keep moving forward in faith. blessings

Originally Posted by omegalamed

PlumpPrincess, it is better to live walking in faith than live walking in fear. Fear is not an environment to raise children in, for they may turn that fear into hatred because of it. I do believe that you will make it, one day at a time. Just keep asking for help for it is the sqeeky wheel that gets heard. Call every social organization you know of for help, for paid training to get a job, for food stamps, for heating assistance, for everything. And don't feel ashamed because you must do what you have to for your two children. I will pray for you for the strength to keep moving forward in faith. blessings

Thank you for your kind words. I am working on a new resume right now. I feel good about it. I have applied for assistance on my electric bill. I have 3 jobs that I am applying for tomorrow. I have 9 more credits to complete and then I will have my BA in psychology and that's a start! My heart is broken as my husband struggles to understand what is happening to him....I can't help him and he knows that. He will always be my friend and I will love him forever for all of the good that he did. I pray for him as well as myself and the kids. I hope he finds peace.

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You seen from your last post you are in a better place emotionally, im glad to hear of that. Break ups are so hard especially when there is a family involved, and the sudden feeling of doing it all by yourself seems overwhelming, like everything is happening all at once. But you WILL get there. You was already smart and brave enough to cut him out of your life, the rest will be a breeze. Have faith in yourself, one year from now you will look back and see how much you have moved forward.

I was too in the same situation two year back. Difficult, I left with nothing. No house, car, money, all but a washing machine (which he took 3 weeks to release to me) and my baby girl, and a whole lot of nastiness and cruelty on his part even though it was an amicable split with no offences made on either side.

Hardship is something we cannot avoid in life. All we can do is learn to take our shoes off and dance in the rain!

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