[ForevahAlone]

Hi. I know that know one can answer this, besides him, with any degree of certainty but I'm just hoping to gain some insight. This guy I know, let's call him Daniel, talks to me all the time. He's so incredibly sweet and treats me so well. He compliments me, he tells me that I'm the only person(at work) that he likes, he even recently asked to hang out with me. I gave him my number(dumb *** thing to do) and he never called me. Ugh. Idk. It just confused me. Lol. Why might he have done that? I just feel embarrassed. I feel like I completely misread him even though he seemed happy that I gave him my number. I vacillate between feeling completely delusional and feeling 100% sure he likes me. Lol. It doesn't matter. I should probably just be happy with what I did get from him.

[yagr]

Let's see what I can come up with here:

1. Daniel talks to you all the time.
2. He's incredibly sweet to you.
3. He treats you so well.
4. He compliments you.
5. He confides that you are the only person he likes at work.
6. He's asked to hang out with you.
7. He appeared happy that you gave him your number.

All evidence up to this point, seems to indicate that Daniel likes you. So rather than dismiss this evidence simply because he didn't call you, let's assume he does and ask the question, "Why would a guy who likes a woman, not call her?"

Any chance he's vacillating between thinking maybe you like him back and thinking he's totally delusional? He's scared. He likes you and he's afraid he misread signs that you liked him back - in spite of you giving him your number. I mean, you've got seven reasons to think he likes you and your doubting it...he's probably doing the same. If I were a betting man (and I am ) I'd bet that's exactly what's going on.

[ChipperMonkey]

Its probably best that he didn't call. A relationship with someone you work with can go bad and then you're stuck seeing them for 40 hours a week. Even worse, one of you gets promoted and supervises the other.

[divine1966]

Avoid dating at work

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[NewCommer]

Well, i can't give you any advice for dating at work. BUT, from my short experience, if i acted around a woman the same way "Daniel" did, i liked her for sure.
So,e of us are actually shy or even doubtful. As yagr said, look at how many signs you have and still wondering. Chances are this is a misunderstanding

Have you talked to him?

[Permacultural]

Originally Posted by ChipperMonkey

Its probably best that he didn't call. A relationship with someone you work with can go bad and then you're stuck seeing them for 40 hours a week. Even worse, one of you gets promoted and supervises the other.

You are seriously correct. What you said times a million. Not a good idea. Inevitably no matter how great things are, little nonverbals get picked up by everyone at work and then the rumors start.

That's additional stress on a relationship that's already trying to get started, perhaps.

There are some that work well under proper conditions, but this guy might have the same concerns or perhaps past experiences. Might be the reason he isn't calling you.

[ForevahAlone]

Hearing that...ugh...lol. It bums me out! I've never liked anyone like this.

[JustJenny]

He said that you are the only person he likes at work. What about outside work?

[jaymoq]

Have you considered asking him if he'd like to get coffee or a drink after work one day? Maybe he is having just as much trouble reading your signs and isn't sure whether your giving him your number was a sign that he is encouraged to call you? I know that sometimes, I am so receptive to other people's emotions and actions but I don't realize that I am closed off and mysterious. I am really really bad at expressing myself, especially in that awkward "does he like me?" phase and I come off super stand offish.

Not saying this is what is happening here, but I think you need to be more assertive if you want answers.

As far as office/work romances, I don't think that you should immediately dismiss one just because it can be challenging. Honestly, I meet most of my friends through work because otherwise I am very antisocial. Is it difficult? Yes. I have worked with two partners and neither went entirely well, but we were very clear on boundaries. It is more difficult if you work DIRECTLY with one another versus in the same building or for the same company. I know many coworkers of mine that are dating or married to coworkers. Just obviously steer clear if either of you are in a position of power/authority over the other in your work roles.

I think you might just casually mention a neat coffee shop or restaurant one day when you're talking with him and then ask if he'd care to join you. You can make it as casual or formal a request as you want. Be clear with your intentions if you want him to be clear with his. If you gave him your number without any real indication of what that means, he might be confused. If I were you, I'd rather know for sure before I dismissed the entire thing entirely. I've had dudes blow me off and I had to do a bit of investigation to make SURE they were blowing me off and it wasn't just a miscommunication.

You talk a lot in the past tense do. Do you not see him at work anymore? How long ago did you give him your number?

[ForevahAlone]

Originally Posted by JustJenny

He said that you are the only person he likes at work. What about outside work?

I'm not really sure about that. I get the feeling that he's kind of introverted.

[ForevahAlone]

Originally Posted by jaymoq

Have you considered asking him if he'd like to get coffee or a drink after work one day? Maybe he is having just as much trouble reading your signs and isn't sure whether your giving him your number was a sign that he is encouraged to call you? I know that sometimes, I am so receptive to other people's emotions and actions but I don't realize that I am closed off and mysterious. I am really really bad at expressing myself, especially in that awkward "does he like me?" phase and I come off super stand offish.

Not saying this is what is happening here, but I think you need to be more assertive if you want answers.

As far as office/work romances, I don't think that you should immediately dismiss one just because it can be challenging. Honestly, I meet most of my friends through work because otherwise I am very antisocial. Is it difficult? Yes. I have worked with two partners and neither went entirely well, but we were very clear on boundaries. It is more difficult if you work DIRECTLY with one another versus in the same building or for the same company. I know many coworkers of mine that are dating or married to coworkers. Just obviously steer clear if either of you are in a position of power/authority over the other in your work roles.

I think you might just casually mention a neat coffee shop or restaurant one day when you're talking with him and then ask if he'd care to join you. You can make it as casual or formal a request as you want. Be clear with your intentions if you want him to be clear with his. If you gave him your number without any real indication of what that means, he might be confused. If I were you, I'd rather know for sure before I dismissed the entire thing entirely. I've had dudes blow me off and I had to do a bit of investigation to make SURE they were blowing me off and it wasn't just a miscommunication.

You talk a lot in the past tense do. Do you not see him at work anymore? How long ago did you give him your number?

It's been about a week. I've seen him and we have talked. Just not about that. I didn't bring it up.

[darlingbaby]

My 2 Cents.

Sounds like he doesn't like working there and and doesn't get along with anyone but you.

I think he may have said it innocently that you're the only one he likes to work with.

I've been at work places where people are poisonous and there would be one decent person in the whole group. I would tend to work closer to that one person because they were somewhat of a safety blanket away from the poisonous workers.

If it is something more than that, just make sure he's not married or has a GF.

[ForevahAlone]

Originally Posted by darlingbaby

My 2 Cents.

Sounds like he doesn't like working there and and doesn't get along with anyone but you.

I think he may have said it innocently that you're the only one he likes to work with.

I've been at work places where people are poisonous and there would be one decent person in the whole group. I would tend to work closer to that one person because they were somewhat of a safety blanket away from the poisonous workers.

If it is something more than that, just make sure he's not married or has a GF.

You could definitely be right about that. I think I'll just stop worrying about it. Either way, it's not a huge deal.