I'm so confused by what my husbands therapist said to me.....It was the first appointment after the initial one that is just paperwork where his behavior was discussed. I participated by speaker phone. I told her about what I felt were the worst behaviors and episodes that happened, things like threatening my pet rabbit and trying to kick my dog down a flight of stairs. He liked to basically through temper tantrums and use whatever means he had to get his way.....very manipulating. Everyday life became about not setting him off...I readjusted myself and my behaviors to avoid his outburst.

So I have tried to keep peace till this first real session, I wanted to know what the therapist was going to say....I could tell she was concerned as I began explaining what he had done. She called me later in the evening and told me based on what she heard and from his own confessions that she felt he was a sociopath and that he needed extensive and aggressive treatment, she felt he was a danger to himself as well as me and the children. She felt he shouldn't be around animals either.

She said something next that really hit me like a brick.....she said that even aggressive partial hospitalization may not help him. She was trying to tell me to forget him and get away from him because she felt he would never get better. I have done a bit of reading on sociopath behaviors and I believe she may be right.......

I lost my father to alcoholism, my mother who is still alive to dementia, My daughter struggles with her condition and autism and now I am losing my husband to a mental disorder that probaly came form years of abuse as a child. I swear I would take years off of my life to make them all well, happy and at peace with their lives.....

My GOD.....I'm in shock..... I have lost so many people to addictions or mental illness it is tragic....

[Perry Gunite]

I see you have posted more detail here. I replied on the other post. But I will add more here based on the additional information.

The T is more than likely right. This type of cluster B diagnosis behavior takes a huge toll on anyone around them.
They are never at fault, won't apologize, have no conscience or empathy free.
You did nothing wrong, nor do you deserve to be treated like this. There is no ability or value in arguing. Focus on truths.

Originally Posted by Perry Gunite

I see you have posted more detail here. I replied on the other post. But I will add more here based on the additional information.

The T is more than likely right. This type of cluster B diagnosis behavior takes a huge toll on anyone around them.
They are never at fault, won't apologize, have no conscience or empathy free.
You did nothing wrong, nor do you deserve to be treated like this. There is no ability or value in arguing. Focus on truths.

It took a terrible toll on my mental and physical health.....I was blind sided. I didn't seem to see it coming....and at some point I went in to denial as a way of survival, I forgave things I should never have and I gave many chances to try again....I prayed and spent most of my days sick on my stomach from my nerves. The whole time this was happening to me I was also caring for my mother who suffered a brain hemorrhage. I was just married in June of 2015 and almost couldn't accept what was happening to my marriage and life. Now I have to accept that the person I vowed to stick by through better or worse I must let go of for my own self preservation. It is a moment in life I will never forget or get over for a long time.......

[lavendersage]

Originally Posted by Plumprincess

It took a terrible toll on my mental and physical health.....I was blind sided. I didn't seem to see it coming....and at some point I went in to denial as a way of survival, I forgave things I should never have and I gave many chances to try again....I prayed and spent most of my days sick on my stomach from my nerves. The whole time this was happening to me I was also caring for my mother who suffered a brain hemorrhage. I was just married in June of 2015 and almost couldn't accept what was happening to my marriage and life. Now I have to accept that the person I vowed to stick by through better or worse I must let go of for my own self preservation. It is a moment in life I will never forget or get over for a long time.......

I'm so sorry that this is happening to you but from the brief details you've provided, I have to tell you.....I'm really concerned for you, your children and any pets that you have to continue to be around this person. Is there anywhere you can all go? Your mom's?

I realize that's drastic - but this is a very extreme situation and you know....drastic circumstances call for drastic measures.

I'm afraid for you. Please stay safe.

[Nammu]

My husband was branded a sociopath too. He was very charming before our marriage. I got swept along and was married in less than a year. On our honeymoon he changed. Hit my in the head, that was the start of his abuse. I just saw it as a temper problem and kept thinking I could help him. I stayed for 2 1/2 years. I have had a lot of bad things happen in my childhood but living with him caused PTSD. When I got my divorce unknown to me the judge had my husband see two independent Pdocs, both came to the same conclusion, so the judge ordered monitored visitation with our daughter.

Please do get you, your child and pets to safety.