[UCLAFan]

He thinks i need to get out more. Plus start to date again. I have been out of the dating game so long. Plus i don't like anyone at the moment.Also there is one guy who likes me.But his know it all personality sucks and i have never been attratced to him. Not to sound mean but this guy is a mama's boy. He is in his 40's still living with his mother.That to is another turn off.Why do i attract guys like that?I want someone normal. I want someone that acts like an adult not like a child.I have been on my own for over 18 years.I want someone who is independent,loving,caring,honest,funny and who will always be there for me.But all i attract is losers.

[adele96]

oh god, you're not the only one. i always attract loser, old men, mentally deficient weirdos and just generally VERY damaged men. i can't win, i can't even get a relationship. i've never dated more than four months. and i'm 33 and on a downhill slide physically. so, lol, you are so not totally alone.
and i too find i am never truly attracted to these men. not soul to soul.

[sabby]

I'm so glad I am not in the position of dating and finding the right person to be with. It is not always a fun thing to go through. But, when I was looking, I remember attracting the same sort of people that would just suck the life out of me. I finally realized that I needed to make changes in myself to attract the right kind of people in my life (whether possible mates or friends for that matter).

For many many years I had struggled with self esteem issues. When I finally worked on them and felt better about myself, was able to hold my head up high and showed confidence about myself, the group of people I attracted was much better. Of course you always get the stray ones who are not what you are looking for, but the pool of other personalities opens up wider. That's my personal experience with attraction. Don't know if might apply to you or not.

I wish you well on your journey in dating and finding the right folks to associate with. I know it's a jungle out there! Keep positive thoughts and soon possitive things will happen

Hugsssss
J

[UCLAFan]

I just wish for once i'd meet a stable atrractive guy. Not one i'd have to take care of.I told the one loser that lives with his mom. When he asked me why i was not interested in him. I said because it seems like you are looking for a mother figure to replace his mom when she dies.She is in her 70's.Plus i told him most women in their right mind. Would not date a guy in his mid 40's that still lives with his mom.He has never had even one girlfriend.But i don't blame anyone for not wanting to date him.Sabu you are so lucky u don't have to deal with dating these days. </font><blockquote><div id="quote"><font class="small">Quote:</font>
adele96 said:
oh god, you're not the only one. i always attract loser, old men, mentally deficient weirdos and just generally VERY damaged men. i can't win, i can't even get a relationship. i've never dated more than four months. and i'm 33 and on a downhill slide physically. so, lol, you are so not totally alone.
and i too find i am never truly attracted to these men. not soul to soul.

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I have no advice, except for there's this very funny movie called 'Failure to Launch', with Jessica Parker and Matthew something? McConahe (I know SIC on that last name LOL) . Anyways, it's about getting a 30 something year old man out of his mom and dad's house. It's soooo hilarious. You just might get a kick out of watching it.

I wonder if losers just come on to anyone, as they're so used to being rejected they don't care anymore? Maybe there's that chance one out of a hundred might say yes? Before I got married, I used to think 'damn, what the hell's wrong with me, that these (obvious) losers, weirdos think I'll say YES??'

You don't attract losers, I think we all do.

Tokidoki

[UCLAFan]

Seen that movie awhile back.I'm not sure how to spell Matthews last name either. You might be right. The losers might ask everyone out untill they get someone dumb enough to say yes to them.

[Cheri]

I really hate labeling people as "losers." Maybe they're just not right for you.