I need advice about feeling I have regarding a married man

Often times the way we feel about things or people is because it is familiar. The strongest chemistry I ever felt was for very wrong men. My t says it is because your body responds to something familiar. Often that familiar is no good, I'd explore in therapy why you are attracted to unavailable men and how to break out of it

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Staring and gazing isn't really a big deal. It doesn't mean he is planning on cheating on his wife. Winking at women is kind of bizarre. I don't find it attractive. I don't know what you base your feeling for him on? Just his staring? How well do you know him?


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There's no rule that says a man will be attractive to the extent that he is a good guy. Many men who are complete scoundrels have lots of charisma. It's totally possible for a decent woman to be hugely attracted to a guy who's basically no darn good.

You are right on Rose even though I never have became attracted to a married man before. I am going to GI to a few sessions to deal with this . I can't go into details of what all happened but he used manipulative antics to try to get what he wanted which was selfish he got in my head but that's all he got..now I need to get him out

Good! What is GI?

It's good that you've decided to seek help for overcoming this. I think it was Trippin that mentioned the attraction part. Getting someone out of your head isn't easy. It does take work. Trying to see flaws is certainly a way to approach this. And he certainly seems to have many. Even in your 40's, this one person certainly isn't close to a last shot at romance. When you shed yourself of this emotional burden, take a step back and a good look around you. Perhaps you'll see numerous possibilities. So much so, that you can take your sweet time and be as picky as you want.

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