[Sanshuin]

My "for now" husband of 9 months is in the Marines. We've never spent more than two weeks in each other's presence with him and deployments. I love him but recently our marriage is shattering day by day. As I said before I love him with all my heart but recently we've been arguing almost EVERY SINGLE DAY and I never call him out of his name or belittle him. That's all he does. He's very controlling (hacking into emails Apple ID blocking contacts in my phone controlling where I go) and he's in Okinawa doing this. He says very hurtful things like "I don't deserve to be loved". "I'm not good for anything but sex". "I'm happy you didn't have my daughter". He always apologizes after and says it won't happen again but it does. I don't know what to do at this point. My self esteem is on -1 and every day is a challenge. I rather have my phone off all day than text or call my husband. I'm at a dead end ...

That is mean. Marriages with a partner in the military could be very difficult, and I think the two partners need to sort this out before marriage; that it will need huge sacrifice. Have you had this conversation and why he is mean to you? Has he been this way all the time, or just flipped like this recently? and why?

[JustJenny]

You've been married for 9 months and he's already treating you like that? How was he to you before you got married?

My first thought is that you should save yourself.

[smartiesparty]

Military marriages are tough but your husband is just a douche and a hurtful person. Telling you that you're good for nothing except sex just shows that this is verbal abuse. This marriage won't make you happy. He disrespected you greatly. And this hasn't anything to do with military. It has to do with the fact that he doesn't have respect for you. You should leave this toxic situation. When he apologizes, you know he doesn't mean it as he keeps doing it over and over again.