[greenpunkergirl]

Hey all,
My bf recently got a few new habits that I am sure have some psychological basis, and if anyone knows the basis of them, pass the knowladge down to yours truely please!
His first new habit is his spending. He used to spend money on me like it was going out of style. It made me uncomfortable, but I said nothing. Then he stopped, and he now spends money on me sparingly. Never having had a bf with spending money, I assume that once you get comfortable in a reletionship, things involving money do change, since the wooing process is over, but want to make sure I am right. He now takes me out one day a week, which is much more comfortable for me.
His next new habit is sexual. He likes to hold my hand during sex. Now I don't mean he pins me to the bed, and holds my hands still, I mean he intertwines his fingers in mine, and watches me during the act. I don't know what this means, but darned it's been so confusing. I know that lately he has been extra sweet, and that he's been seemingly taking this more seriously, but I have never heard of someone who wants to hold hands during sex. Any thoughts?

[asylumgardens]

I love holding hands during sex. I think it's sweet, and it probably goes along with him being extra sweet, as you said. I suppose if it makes you uncomfortable you should say something, but as long as you like it, it's probably a good thing on both sides.

As for the money, I'd say that's pretty normal. People act different in the beginning of a relationship with most things, including money, and once things get more comfortable there's less of a need to "impress" or whatever

[Direction]

Agreed...

Agreed......

[nothemama8]

[greenpunkergirl]

well, this is good news, because my roomie said that he was doing the hand holding thing because he felt guilty for some reason. As far as the spending habits go though, I was more than uncomfortable with how much he spent, and am much happier now that he has calmed that down.