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Old Mar 17, 2016, 02:17 PM
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chuck it up to a mistake you made happy birthday and give yourself freedom from this you know what person. as a gift to yourself.
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Old Mar 17, 2016, 03:16 PM
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Stay strong. For whatever reason this guy is incapable of REAL emotional connection & it doesn't matter what the reason, the treatment is completely unacceptable & that is the bottom line & should NEVER be tolerated. When we start to tolerate bad behavior, then they take even more advantage of us.

One of the last conversations I had with my H was him saying that he just thought I could continue tolerating him for the rest of our lives because I had tolerated him for so many years. You don't want to get into that kind of situation even if the guy has no idea that you are JUST tolerating him.

Be thankful that you have seen his true colors NOW & didn't let it get any farther than this in your life. Red flags are important to notice & to pay attention to. I noticed them before I got married but got talked out of them & then ended up talking myself out of the red flags & finally left 33 years later because of the same red flags I saw before the wedding.

Life is too short to waste dealing with abusive, self-centered, immature people who have no desire or ability to change.
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Old Mar 17, 2016, 08:00 PM
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Hedgeleaf, when you had the birthday dinner with your friends, was it an all-girl affair, or were any males there? If any males were included, then what you did was wrong, and your bf should not have been excluded.

On the other hand, if it was a ladies night out, then he is wrong.
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Old Mar 17, 2016, 08:41 PM
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I thought I remembered it being girls night out so went back to the original post to see:

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Just to add, both evening will consist of dinner with some of my girl friends, hardly a raving party
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Old Mar 17, 2016, 08:47 PM
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Saying he cant believe I've blocked him and that I must have meant nothing to him and how much I've hurt him this week.

Then he asked if I was interested in anyone else

I haven't replied
Good job! Don't reply and keep him blocked.
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Old Mar 18, 2016, 11:34 AM
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Just shows you he doesn't give a damn about you.


If he did, he would have swallowed his tantrum by now and try to salvage your birthday.


Instead he's trying harder and harder to ruin it completely.


Ugh, I hope the rest of your day is free of him.
this.

I have to emphasize that it's your day's celebration and not a single one of his insults and complaints is about you, your feelings, your special day. Everything in this says it's about him. ON YOUR BIRTHDAY he's making it all about him. >.>

Glad you blocked him and hope you are able to make a smooth transition to a life without him.
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