[Lee hye ri]

I feel strangulated
Iam the type of friend that dont complain about anything ... Always give advice .. Always bear critisism... But i lately i feel so agitated ... Cant stand some of my friends .. One of them (S) always complain about us being late .. And the whole road .. Reminding us of being late .. If she waited for us after lecture ... She must remind us of the exact interval of time she waited .. So one day .. She did the same and repeated it many times .. So i told her to go home and i will stay to go home with my late friend .. She said its okay ... Then continued the same act .. So i told her ... "Thats why i told you to go home" ..next day i found out that she is angry .. So i went to ask her why .. She told me .. THAT ITS NOT A METHOD TO SPEAK TO HER .. So .. The end ... Another friend offended me in many ways but i didnt speak ... I told her to wait for me .. I called her and told her that i finished and coming ... I really finished but my tool was with others and i was waiting to take it ... So she called me and asked where i was. Many times ... Iam coming what do you want ... Iam coming .. Then when i arrived ,found her angry ... And told me ... That its not a method of speaking ... Like what the first said ... Another one is hardworking ... During any spare time she would go to library and study .. Doesnt stand with us ... Then text me on fb saying she miss us alot.. And i reply .. You will see us tomorrow ... At the same time she wants me to talk to her about everything i do ... Like dramas i watch ..etc.. I get annoyed bec. She says she misses me ... But any spare time , she would run to library ... Okay , i dont mean to ruin her future .. A couple of minutes is very good .. In that case i prefer she doesnt say anything .. That better for me ... I feel like its fake .. And i really hate fake words ..

So , i want to know if my method of speaking is wrong or not ... Guys ... I really feel like iam stranger between them ... Does friends pick on every single word like that ?

[Lee hye ri]

Originally Posted by omegalamed

What does the hearts mean ? Lol

[Trippin2.0]

It means someone heard you and cares.


We don't always have the right words with which to reply, but we do still want posters to know they've been heard.


Idk if your method of speaking is right or wrong, I can't hear you speak, so I can't judge as to whether you have a harsh tone, I can't see you so I don't know if your face is unwelcoming when you speak, sooo in short, I don't know. And I doubt any other poster can answer your question to your satisfaction.


My advice?


Ask your friends what it is about how you speak to them that they find upsetting, and then see if they have a valid point, if you can fix it, or if they're just being unnecessary.


Best way to learn how to communicate better is to communicate.

[Lee hye ri]

You r right .. Thank u all for your care ... I appreciate it