[lovemeformexo]

I'm 27 and I feel like my family treats me like a mental patient. About a year and a half ago I was admitted to the psychiatric ward for a week. I've been having a really hard time lately. I live with my parents. I just want to be free and do as I please. But I can't because every time I try to my over bearing mother is breathing down my neck. She is very controlling every time I go somewhere she has to know where I am at all times. She is very judge mental of me. I feel like she doesn't want me to go out and have a social life. She wants to go everywhere I go. I just feel trapped. Every time I tell her how I feel She threatens me to put me back in the mental hospital. She has told every single one of my family members about me going to the mental hospital so now at family get togethers it's awkward. I really need advice on what to do she treats me like a little kid. I feel like it's not helping me to get better it's making it worse. I need help on what to do.

[Skeezyks]

Hello lovemeformexo: Well... the obvious answer here is, at 27, it's time to get out on your own. As long as you continue to live with your mother, it's likely this is going to continue to be a problem. Many years ago, I had relationship problems with my mother. I was an only child & she clung to me even after I had moved out & was on my own. As it turned out, I ended up moving out of state to go to school & never moved back. That took care of it. Of course, if you don't have the ability and / or the resources to be out on your own, then that's not an option for you.

Beyond that I think the best thing you can perhaps do is to try to establish some boundaries with her. You mentioned you live with your parents. So I presume your dad is in the home too? Would it be possible for you to enlist your dad in an effort to establish some "guidelines" regarding what you are & aren't comfortable with at this point? The reality may be that as long as you live in your parents' home, you may simply not be able to get out from underneath this entirely. But perhaps you can establish some boundaries, or guidelines, that will give you at least a bit more freedom. Good luck!

You certainly are in a fix. Do you have any close friends? make it two or three nights out with them to alleviate being around them at the house 24/7. Or have them come over and visit with just you. It is the only way is to use the boundaries in your living space as your own and capitalize on it by entertaining in your space your friends and enjoying yourself. And certainly talk about this with your counselor how you can feel safer at home withou your mother butting in (((hugs))) good luck and tc

[Purple Heart]

(((lovemeformexo)))

Welcome here. My mother is similar although more secretive in her abuse of me. As the first person said, leave the house and have little or no contact with your family. They sound toxic!! There is clear manipulation when she threatens to send you to the mental hospital. That's horrible! Your mother (and maybe others in the family) seem like narcissists. Your mother certainly seems like one - selfish, mean, self-centred and out to control. There is a lot of Youtube videos on narcissistic parents, especially mothers. I find the videos very helpful to watch as its very validating to know other people, like you and me, are going through similar experiences. Also there is a great book called, Toxic Parents, a must read! I hope this helps.

PH