Begging for love

Have you ever begged for a hug? A kiss? Some type of real affection/love from your partner?

I have. A lot recently.

It's the most pathetic feeling ever.

Then to get denied is just..... Unbearable



The flames of hell

I don't know about literally begging but I've jumped through hoops to try and win someone's affection. Probably did some pathetic things for it too. People get desperate in the name of love!

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I have done the same thing as well.

😔

The flames of hell

I've been chronically neglected, then when I have no choice but to be the initiator, it is unbearably humiliating. So bad, I can't even do it. A bad pattern in my relationship for years.

I feel your pain.

I was neglected most of my childhood and often don't realize that this could be part of the reason i can be so needy.

I'm sorry 😔

The flames of hell

Same thing here. My daddy paid more attention to his girlfriends and my mom passed. I used to do rediculous things to try and get his attention. I guess neglect has a lot to do with it!!

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Me too. Daddy didn't love me because he was MI and died when I was 12. Plus I will always feel like that ugly duckling kid that was bullied. Plus I've had all kinds of crazy relationships with men. I can't stand rejection, especially from someone I love.

Rejection is like a knife through my heart. I try to be the best girlfriend in hopes that i will be loved. Unconditionally.

Now that i am severely depressed, again,. I sit and whine for it.

"Why can't you hug me and love me that's what i need"

I get nothing.

The flames of hell

You need to regain your emotional independence. You're more than likely turning your woman off with your neediness.

You need to regain your emotional independence. You're more than likely turning your partner off by being needy.

How does he respond to that question?

He responds with frustration and walks away

😔

The flames of hell

I'm sorry you're going through that. I can't seem to help myself with my problem either. But, I know fighting about it or whining about it is not going to make it better.

Nope it sure won't help....


The flames of hell

I went through that for years with my ex-wife though I would stop short of begging.
She was cold when it came to the physical part of our relationship and just as cold
emotionally. The only time in our marriage that she ever initiated physical contact
was when she wanted children. Other than that she was pretty icy.
It was a long lonely road being married to her and after growing up with a mother
that was emotionally unconnected my ex truly was a very bad choice for my MI.

How long has he been like this? Was it always like this or did he become like this?

I have never begged for a hug/affection but have asked for it on many an occasion, my partner was not raised in a huggy demonstrative family so it did not come easily to him. If I didn't ask I wouldn't have got.

Hes always been like this. Abusive environment as a child.

Hes also diagnosed bipolar.

Guess i shouldn't be surprised.

Maybe avoid asking direct questions and instead make some gestures and implicit requests. This might make him take the move. Maybe with questions he feels that he's not in control of his own actions, especially if there is no feelings to ignite them.