I'm out of options.

I really don't know what to do. I moved in with my boyfriend about 4 months ago we have been doing fine and nothing has been a problem but last week his ex girlfriend decided to visit and I had to be nice and do stuff for her while she was visiting. Except the other night I was reading through my boyfriend's messages with her and she was telling him that he needs to kick me out and that I'm a toxic person that he doesn't need in his life. And since she's been up he's been saying that everyone in the house hates me and that I'm lucky they are even letting me live here. I'm just so confused because when I try to talk to him about it he just keeps telling me to be nice to her and that he loves me. I can't even go to work because I'm afraid that she might make him lock me out of the house. I have nowhere to go because my family lives 8 hours away from me and I don't really have any friends where I live. I know this probably sounds stupid but it's really hard trying to deal with her telling him to get rid of me. Any opinions? I'm just starting to this everyone here hates me.

Hello Alisha825: I see this is your first post here on PC... so... welcome to PsychCentral... from the Skeezyks! May you find the time you spend here to be of benefit.

From the Skeezyks' perspective, this relationship sounds like a train wreck. From what you wrote, it sounds to me like you should probably be dumping this boyfriend & working on finding another place to live. My perspective, for what it's worth (not much probably) is that this relationship is going to go badly one way or another... & the question is... will you be ready or not when it does? I wish you well...

Nobody hates you here.

where did you live before your boyfriend?

Who is "everyone in the house?" And why do they supposedly hate you? I guess I feel like it's a cruddy thing for a boyfriend to tell his girlfriend that people are hating on her--that doesn't really seem like a loving relationship.

Why is his ex staying in yours and your boyfriends house?!? Who else lives there? You do have options. Kick her out or move out yourself or break up with your BF . What kind of arrangement is this?

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First thing that strikes me is the question as to wtf your bf would have an ex (gf even not even wife with children visiting or anything!) visit?! I have not enough evidence as to what the rest of your relationship is or how you are in it so I will make no judgments there but when it comes to 1. your bf, he is clearly a dysfunctional one as he has the cojones to invite an ex gf to his house while living with YOU, his current gf. That in and of itself screams of red flags all over the place. 2. The gf is a supposed ex but has motivations to visit her ex bf? wtf for? If she has the guts to sit there and bad mouth you to your bf and stuff her motivations run deeper and her ties to him are much tighter than you think which makes this a more precarious relationship than you might think.

On top of those two very major things, beyond that, the fact that your bf would ALLOW her to bad mouth you without defending you, I question whether he is loyal at all to you.

I understand you have no where to go or you think this but... alternative thinking is, do you really want to remain in a relationship like this? A boyfriend who is obviously split between loyalties who does not clearly respect you as you should be? Fact is the gf should be gone, I'm sorry, his inviting her for a visit screams so much wrong here I can barely contain myself.

Get out. find a way to get back home and be more mindful of who you choose for your next mate, although my first impulse is to say you need to be alone for awhile if you can't figure out that this is a terrible terrible situation that you have to get out of.

Your being abused emotionally. This girl-friend..needs to go...and you must demand that.
If she does not go...you HAVE to manage the 8 hours back to your hometown..and get out of there.