So over my husband

My husband of 12 yrs travels for work, last weekend while I was on the phone with him I could hear him talking to other women. The next day he tells me about 2 different women he hung out with the day/night before. I literally said "cool story bro" and got off the phone. Im not a jealous person never have been, he always has free reign to do whatever and I don't question it. Last night Im in a meeting and he calls. I text him and let him know it will be a min. So when I call him back 10 min late I am under interrogation about my meeting. It was a freaking women's networking mtg!! Anyway, so after all that he then starts asking me why I liked a musicians page when I don't even like that type of music. I explain he played at our friends (woman) bar and she asked for everyone to like and review her fb page then like the musicians page. I was there for about 20 minutes then got a business call and had to leave. The last time he was home he went through my phone and came across an unsaved number...he didn't ask me about it though he went to my 15 yr old daughter quizzing her about what happens and who I am with when he is gone. The message was said "we will be leaving in 5 minutes so looks like we should make it in time." I replied with "Perfect. That worked out great, thank you" it was from my daughters teacher (woman) when they were on a over night conference trip. I have no idea and at this point I really don't care what he does while he is out on the road, but yet I am the one getting the questions and the one being accused when I have our 3 children to take care of and we live in a small town that HE is from. If I were to do something he would know about it before it we were even done so....wtf?! I don't put myself in questionable situations I am with my kids or my group of married girlfriends or work oh yes...he also thinks I have something going on with my boss. 1 my boss is also married, 2 they have 3 children as well, and 3 his wife happens to be 1 of our kids teachers. I can't wrap my head around why he thinks I would do anything with another man let alone my married boss whose wife teachers one of our children!!

Also over the weekend he tells me one of the guys he works with fiance just found out shes pregnant and he left the bar with a chick and spent the night with her. He came back the next day and my husband said he punched him. I asked him why and he said that guy has a fiance and now a baby on the way and he's still out trying to sow his seed. I mean I get it, that's awful, but why get so worked up about it that you punch him?!?!?! He doesn't know this dudes fiance, he isn't really friends with this guy either so...what's the deal? Was that a made up story to cover his own tracks to get my reaction or what? So stupid, I'm so over him. Thank you for reading!!

Sorry to read that you are going through this.

Unfortunately, my experience is the jealousy comes right out displaying their guilt. Which in turn gets me questioning everything. Toxic mixture.

Maybe it's time to sit down and reevaluate priorities and reexamine how this got this far.

IME, and from what I've witnessed thus far, interrogations, probing, snooping, accusations, etc etc etc, usually spell "Guilty Conscience"....


It's almost like they absolutely refuse to believe their partners aren't cheating too.


So sorry to hear you're living under a microscope AND being falsely accused.

Everythign about your husband's behavior screams to me that he's over acting in order to cover his own misdeeds. I can be wrong but the tendency is that what I've found with people who cheat is they also tend to be the more jealous one too. They overly are suspicious of their spouse or mate, because deep down they know they cannot be trusted. Some of it is acting to cover their tracks. They go overboard being vigilant to show how appalled they are at such behavior but many times it is a deflection of what they are doing themselves, or a way to distract from having suspicion directed at them.

Again, I do not know for sure if that's the case, but from my observation, my initial thoughts even before I got to your question about the story being made up etc...