[Hedgeleaf]

My friend has an awful history of domestic abuse. She was with her last partner for 8 years and they have children together.
She finally free'd herself from this relationship after many calls to the police and so much turmoil and heart ache.

She has since met a new partner and things seemed to be perfect for her.

Last weekend she told me they had a row on a train. He got off and she chased after him to stop him leaving and grabbed him so he would talk. He pushed her off and she fell, hit her head and was knocked out. She went to A&E and he was arrested as a witness called the police.

The police have said no contact for 2 weeks and he may end up in prison if found guilty. She said she hasn't filed any charges but the witness has.

I love her dearly and want to believe her but something just doesn't add up.

She won't have anyone over to see her and a friend of ours is worried she may have bruises that she's trying to hide.

She told me all of his via texting but didn't mention that it was an accident until a few hours later after she told me.

I'm worried at what could happen to all involved in this situation

Any advise?

[Talthybius]

Don't have any good advice, but the account you describe to us, do you know whose's account it is and how accurate it is? Souds like she is defending him by hiding the truth. That said, if she was knocked out, she may not remember what happened.

If it was really an accident, this one witness did call the police and filed charges. So you are right to say that it doesn't add up. But we don't know her and we don't know what happened either.

[Hedgeleaf]

Originally Posted by Talthybius

Don't have any good advice, but the account you describe to us, do you know whose's account it is and how accurate it is? Souds like she is defending him by hiding the truth. That said, if she was knocked out, she may not remember what happened.

If it was really an accident, this one witness did call the police and filed charges. So you are right to say that it doesn't add up. But we don't know her and we don't know what happened either.

Everything I mention about the event is what she's said to me. I'm really worried she's got herself into another abusive relationship

[Hedgeleaf]

^^^^ sorry posted too soon

I'm worried she's covering for him.

Apparently there is CCTV at the train station but no idea if they were filmed on it

[divine1966]

I would worry too. It sounds like possibly abusive situation

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It sounds like a case of toxic codependency, and i agree covering for him. Your best bet is not to get involved. If you come to the rescue she could turn it around and go against you to cover for him. Sad but true, this is her problem. Just be there for her when she comes to you, but don't go to her. You must take care of yourself so that you can be a friend when she needs one. tc

[Hedgeleaf]

I'm so scared for her

She said she's meeting up with him tomorrow night even tho they are both on orders from the police to have zero contact

I feel sick with worry for her