I am so close to putting restraining orders on everyone

I have a problem that I "pee" when I orgasm and I have been torn apart by my mother because she thinks I do it on purpose but I have incontinance. I have no control over it. Nobody ever asks me how I feel about it or whatever they just accuse me of doing it on purpose and all of a sudden I am a monster. I feel upset and alone because nobody asks me why the things I do or etc. They just attack me and to be honest I have never been taught how to defuse an argument when your being wrongfully attacked I just get defensive and start swearing at people. Only after the arguement is half way over and I get a clear head why I am angry and what she did that angered me I explain my feelings of hurt and anger when I am accused of the worst when nobody considers my point of view or feelings about it. I hate myself for it, I hate my body for it I hate my vagina for it but then to be attacked for doing it on purpose. When I have a medical condition is just the icing on the cake on my sadness, anger and helplessness about it. I can't do anything about it I wish I had no bladder or someone put a bag on my bladder so it does happen anymore but no one asks me how I feel its straight to who did wrong and attacking me. This is why this family is a failure and why no one understands or gets along with each other it is all accusations and assumptations. This is where this family needs to learn asservative skills for **** sake. Before I lose my head leave and put a restraining order on everybody

I'm not really sure that sharing certain things in your private life with family is the best thing to do.

I doubt you would ever get a restraining order against your family over this... Wouldn't it be more productive for you to turn the anger over this situation into yet another reason to move out on your own..... asap?

Just get a towel for your bed and lie on it when you *ahem*

Don't think your mother needs to know that stuff

She finds out everything I don't have a lock on my door

Bathroom?

Why don't you put plastic cover or something on your bed. I am very close with my daughter but I don't know how and what she does when she has sex neither do I want to know. Keep it private

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Have you talked to a doctor about why it is happening physically? I would look into if you have something going on medically. You are very young. Doing kegel exercises might help you control your bladder better.

You can't get restraining orders on people unless they physically attack you (or threaten to, I think).

Your mother blaming you for peeing on purpose is really strange. What's that about? Why does she think such a thing? She knows about your problem because you have no lock on your door you say. Did she walk in on you and discover this happening? There are some serious lack of boundaries there.

I think my sister caught me and then discussed it with mum. Whenever I had boyfriends over she would make sexual jokes they thought it was weird. Yes, I went to the doctor today to hand in my urine samples and then they are doing an ultrasound to find out what has happened. Hopefully, they will send me to the incontinance clinic.

Why aren't you moving out? You don't need moms permissions

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About the lock free, living, it's acceptable when one lives in a home with a child that is prone to destructive rages. Adequate boundaries involve knocking if doors are closed.

About OP, an U/s sounds serious, hopefully they find the cause to your condition considering that you are so young and have never conceived a child. Sometimes stress can cause that.

I agree about kegels, I needed to learn muscle control from the tender age of 6, after falling onto a bike crossbar.

Hopefully your mom and you are working together with a therapist?

Are you washing your own laundry or having your mum do it?

Are you talking to a T about these issues?

With all the conflict between you and your mother just move already unless you like that she waits on you and cleans up after you. I can't say but it sounds like the two of you are in a codependent cycle and it would be good for both of you if you got a regular job and moved out.

Restraining orders mean you can't be in the same house and they are reserved for serious threats to life.

Hi, Are you sure you are peeing after orgasm or could it be a natural 'female response'. For years some women think its an infection of incontinence but find out its really female ejaculation. You learn to use a towel on the sheet.

Its hard for your mum to see you as a woman while you are living in her house. I'm 60yrs and my 95yr old mum insists on things her way in her house. Its why we both have our own homes but I live close by if she needs me.

Move out as soon as you can.

No, I don't wash laundry and if I try too do anything my mother says it isn't good enough and treats me like I don't know how to do anything reteaches me I already know I think she just likes feeling needed and wanted because she is alone in this she may not admit it but I feel she resents me and my sister because we are the reason why she couldn't stay in her country, even though she made that decision.

Have you told your mother how you feel? That you think that she resents you? Because she allegedly couldn't stay in her own country?

I think she does and I think she would also resent me because I am a little lazy. Though I have been picking up my weight today I made a desert and cleaned the dishes. I am slowly getting to a point where she can finally be proud of me

Are you squirting and not peeing? Do you know the difference between squirting and peeing? The first time I squirted I thought it was pee but it's not.

Hows plans to move out going for you ?

She's only started considering on knocking on the door she used to just barge in and then she be pissed at what mess I am doing. I really had no peace.

She should think about your need for privacy ...

I don't know how to say that to her. I guess I will leave it I really have no energy argueing with her anymore. Like I deserve better then constantly argueing and people argueing and berating me