Girl lied to get out of giving me a ride

woops my mistake earlier! Not sure how that happened.

Anyway, this came up last night after my support group. Another member asked me why I no longer gave rides to two individuals. She confided in me she was having problems and couldn't find a way to get out of giving them rides anymore. She was worried about offending them. As it turned out she was feeling used. As had been the case when I used to ferry these people all over the city she was feeling really used. The fact it cost her gas money to do so added to the frustration. I pointed out that why should she be afraid of offending them when they had basically done that to her? After months of driving them home she had yet to get any help paying for gas. She was also feeling that they were letting her down. My answer was just stop saying yes and you have no need to excuse yourself either.

Galickifan ????? Any update on your finding rides to church ?

Unlikely. Galickifan seems to have a habit of starting threads and abandoning them.

Yes indeed she does.. sad..... lots of wasted time offering her advice

Hey ~Christina! I read abandoned threads as a hobby! You're awesome btw!

moogs

Don't see the point in bumping a thread where the OP is nowhere to be found

Mooooogs !!!! You are great at it !

The behavior of starting threads, asking for help, receiving it, and then walking away without acknowledging, responding, or saying "thanks" is actually very consistent with the behavior of asking for rides, not offering gas money or anything else in return, and then becoming angry when others no longer want to do favors. They both show a sense of entitlement and a lack of ability to recognize others' generosity. Galekifan, have you ever tried to put yourself in someone else's shoes, or thought about how they might experience a situation? Since you struggle in getting along with other people, maybe it would help you to think about what you can offer them, and not just what they can offer you. It also might help to start practicing saying "thanks" when someone does go out of their way to help you or give you a ride.

Word.

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Awesome (rhetorical)question: what do you have to offer others...

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