[PunkPhotography]

yeah, sorry for the thread's subject, but you it's true.
whenever i remind myself that i will never be able to grow another 4-6 inches (so that I'm about 5"4-5"6), i sometimes imagine myself committing suicide (but then again, why? i love live so far).
oh and then i start to tell myself that a guy might think it's rather gross if he were to see my boobs when I'm laying down in the nude (they're so small to the point that I'm 'flat' when I'm laying down). I'm not very proud of my size...I'm thinking more of a 36C or a 32D would be nice.
I have a feeling that since all of these changes will be for me, that a guy will like me because i love myself now that I've changed myself. you know, they tell you that if you don't like it, change it.

changing one's body isn't always the answer. i believe that the answer is in one's head and heart....

changing just so men will like us isn't a very healthy thing to do........if a man doesn't see what is inside you, the outside ain't gonna matter one iota......love, faye

[Wants2Fly]

I agree with Pat. Generally, the inner changes are the ones we need. A cosmetic surgeon named Maxwell Maltz started writing self-help books about this need for inner change after he noticed that some of his patients did not change their self-views after the surgery and continued to see themselves as ugly, etc.

Happiness is always an inside job.

[PunkPhotography]

True, but as I said, I'm not doing this for a guy. I'm doing this so that I can have at least some inner-confidence.
But then again, I'm only 16 years old, and now that I think about it, at least my boobs might grow...

[meander]

Hey Punk,

I grew about 4cm from when I was 16 to when I was 19, so don't start worrying yet!

[Maven]

Pat said it well. But for the record, I'm the same height you're saying you are (5'0") and many guys like short girls. Many men like small-breasted women as well, so you should do your hair, put on something nice, and go find those kind of men, if you want a man (but don't change for one).

[sabby]

(((((((((((((((((((Punk)))))))))))))))))))))

Being a teenager has it's ups and downs, there is no doubt about it. Seems like things are always black and white with no grey inbetween. But I can tell you now, that in 2 or 3 years, your perceptions of the world and yourself will change as you age and mature and grow.

Try to remember that the most important things in life come from within, not in how a person is packaged on the outside. Go with your strengths....they will never steer you wrong. Work on your personality, for that is what will carry you through your life more than looks.

Give yourself time to mature....be patient with yourself and others. Before you know it, good things will happen!

Wishing you all the best!
Hugss
J

[Perna]

Punk, I was 5'6" at your age and nice boobs, 34B; even if you change things, they won't "stay" how you change them. I also weighed 127 and was pretty good looking but didn't "find" the right husband until I was 35 and 160-170 pounds. When I got married at 39, I had just lost 18 pounds to weigh 180. Now I'm 56, still married, 5'5-1/2" (at best :-) and weigh 260 with the big boobs I wanted at your age only I don't want them anymore (46D). None of that has anything at all to do with my problems/self esteem or how/why I found a good husband and love life now!

You can't do better than "God" at designing you, you can only do better at appreciating you. There are no "mistakes" in our looks or who we "are", we just have the "job" of figuring out what we've got and how best to use it. We're a package deal, don't rip the wrapping paper?

[Aria]

I understand your pain.

I lost a lot of self confidence with my last boyfriend.
He always was talking about how he wished at had my friends boobs and stuff. Because I'm only a 34A, which wasn't "good" enough for him, but he still wanted to be my bf and was always talking about how we're only thirteen and that they'll probably grow, but I got sick of him and and his topics and broke up with him a few days ago, though he agreed it was for the better too.

I'm now a lot happier and am happy that I'm free to date my best friend Will now, whom I've liked for 5 years now.

And don't freak out about your height just yet, my mom only grew to be 5'2" and a half and she's still the same height and has been married twice. And my step-dad is actually 6'0".
And my dad, her first husband, is 5'11". So even if you're short, as I am too, it's easy to find guys if you show them your true self. And believe me a lto of things can happen, and this is coming from a thirteen year a lot.

Try to be proud of yourself, it helps with the growing.