[Babydoll55]

I've been with my boyfriend for almost 3 years now. I met him on an online dating site. He is 26 years old and he doesn't have a job or license and he dropped out of school. Hes not very good looking and i'm quite beautiful. It has been a rocky relationship from the beginning cause he wasn't what i was really looking for but i went out with him anyway cause i was depressed and sick of being alone.

I would pick him up most of the time and spend a lot on petrol so i made him pay for it. He isn't smart, he has no confidence and no social skills at all. The reason i say he isn't smart is because he would never ask me if i was hungry or offer me a drink when i stayed at his home. We would have unprotected sex when i wasn't on any birth control. I would drive drunk and he would let me or he would drive when he was drunk. He watched me drink 40% straight alcohol and he didn't stop me and i could have died. Hes also selfish as he asked me if i would leave my family for him.

Anyway he has been very damaged cause of his past as he was bullied. Hes a very sweet guy and he compliments me all the time, writes me poems on my facebook wall and writes statuses about how much he loves me and wants to spend forever with me and how happy i make him. He always sends me good morning msgs and wants to see me all the time. I wouldn't give him a lot of attention, never contact him first but i was very sweet and caring. He was 23 when we started dating and he was a virgin.

At the beginning of our relationship everything was going fine but then we started arguing all the time and i would avoid him for days, sometimes for no reason and he would get upset and ask me why i was avoiding him but i wouldn't respond. I would break up with him a lot and most of the time i would start the arguments as i thought he wasn't good enough for me and i always wanted it to be my way and thought i was always in the right. He would go crazy and beg me back.

Possible trigger:

He wouldn't eat or sleep, he would vomit blood! end up in hospital and stalk me and threaten to kill him self if i didn't get back with him. He would also contact his family and my friends and sister and send them pics of his arm cut, tell them that hes going to kill himself and that he ended up in hospital. He would also post it on my facebook wall infront of everyone so they can see and post pictures of pills.

I would feel sorry for him and take him back because i thought he loved me so much. I would also confront him about his mistake of letting me go hungry etc and he would change. Later on in our relationship i started chatting to guys on the online dating site and i added two of them on facebook and two other guys that i knew a long time ago and where also interested in me added me on facebook.

I would meet up with all of them a lot and one of the guys i met on a dating site told me about a fast way to get money by interacting with guys on a site and doing sex acts on camera. I decided to do it as i thought it would be fun. I also did other sexual acts in front of the camera with guys.

Anyway my boyfriend somehow found out that i was doing cam modeling as he went into my computer and found the program and logged into it and found out messed with that guy. He was so torn and broken cause he is a very jealous guy and he hated it when guys flirted with me. I denied it and said that someone hacked into my account.

From then on he wanted my facebook details and email passwords etc... but i wouldn't give them to him and he knew something was going on with all those guys as they would flirt with me all the time.

Later on i decided i needed more money so i started doing escorting. My boyfriend found out after a year as he hacked into my email account. I also denied it and said i was modelling there... but he knew anyway.

I kept lying to him about cheating and we where still arguing and breaking up as usual. One day a girl contacted me and asked me if everything was ok as my boyfriend was contacting her and telling her how he was going to kill himself because i broke up with him etc.. i asked her how she met him and apparently he cheated on me with her and her friend about a year and a half ago when i was doing escorting! i went nuts and cried for days.

Apparently he added her but he said she added him. He said she was very interested in him and asked him to meet up all the time and he would say no and she would tell him to leave me and be with her and if i loved him so much i wouldn't keep breaking up with him.

He said when we argued one day she asked him to have sex with her and her friend and he said yes.. she was very fat and wasn't pretty, neither was her friend. Aparently he stayed at her friends for two weekends and he made a snap chat to send her pictures and there was a picture of him and her and he was holding a rope in his hand. She told me all he wanted to do was tie her up but he denied that and he denied that he stayed two weekends at her friends and said he only stayed Friday night and he denied that he had snap chat. He told me to ask her to send me all the inboxes between him and her if i don't believe him.

I found out he lied to me about tying her up as he told me he lied. He also said that he only met up with them because they really liked him and we where having problems in our relationship. He hurt me so much as he used to say that fat girls are disgusting and he would never cheat on me. He told me he would never do it again and he called her a slut and blocked her on facebook.

I dont know what to do anymore, i gave me so many chances yet he disappointed me again. I got back with him because he begged me back so much. Ive given him my facebook details now and told him everything i did and i swore to never cheat again and he knows what i do for work. i'm so lost and everyday its killing me what he did, i always need him to reassure me that he didn't enjoy it but i dunno. Do u think he really loves me, does he deserve me? Do u think he enjoyed the sex too?

[Artchic528]

Dump him. He's not doing you any favors. He's only tearing you apart.

You don't seem very well suited. You basically cheated on him and then got mad when he returned the favor.

[Trippin2.0]

Neither of you have any business dating anybody.


You'll just destroy each other at this rate, please break up and get healthy, both of you.


Goodness, never before have I seen so much toxicity from both partners in a "loving" relationship.

[Lost_in_the_woods]

Toxic for sure. And i kno it a paying job for you but really you are off doin your thing, and he's doing his. Sorry u had to hear about it round the way like that.... but, honestly you cant expect someone to hold to relationship rules that you haven and or not holding ursrlf to as well. Did he enjoy the sex, well yeah probably, but most likely only on a purely lustful and vengeful level. Im sure he would have rather been w/ u, but in ur business itd unlikely ur gonna find many faithful worthwhile guys who can handle what u do for work.. unless you meet a guy in the business as well. Idk. Sorry if that came off harsh. I didnt mean to be rude or judgemental. Im just speaking from my own pov.

[Nammu]

What Trippin said.

[divine1966]

I think this is beyond just unhealthy relationship. You two need lots of help in all aspects of your lives not just dating. I lost several students to drunk drivers. The fact that you two get drunk and drive around doesn't suit well with me. Stop worrying about sex and dating but worry why you are endangering yourself and others. Please seek help

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