What is this?

Hmmmm... I don't know where to start.... I have been talking to this guy who is from Syria for a couple of weeks. Last night we were talking about different things or whatever came up. He admitted that he's falling in love with the person who described themself to him (me). He's great, but you can't go on forever like this; should meet at some point and what not.... Not sure where I was going with this anymore. It's almost strange but he seems to be interested in me as a whole person, and not just some means of sex. He is really nice and understanding and what not... Any comments?

Doesn't sound like you listened to all the advise you were given in a previous post. You're playing with FIRE and you're going to get BURNED! I'm so sorry.

This is rediculous already. If you believe any of that, you are really going to get hurt very badly and I can guarantee you that. How lonely must the both of you be to be acting like this anyways?

This is so out of hand already. I'm done.

ABT

Neither one of you know the other. There's no way either one of you could be falling in love with the other! You know what he's told you and THAT'S ALL! Chances are very good that he's lying through his teeth just to be able to get his hands on you! You don't really know what he's got in mind.

I've been where you are! You're so desperate for attention and what you think is love that you'll fall for anything that is said to you. Believe me, this man is dangerous!! Or he's so hard up, he's lying to you! To me he sounds like a predator setting his evil little trap!

If you think we're just BSing you, go right ahead and meet him, but you best be armed with some pepper spray and a bullhorn, because you're going to need them to call for help! Let's hope that help comes in time!

If you meet him, you'll be making a big mistake.

Hmm -

From my experience (from friends that did this) - 98% of these types of meetings do not work out and some of them even place the other person in physical danger.

And - only 1% of them - Work out, if just for the short run.

Please think long and hard before you do any thing, or worse yet get talked into going over to where he is...... one of my friends did this (against my protest) and she was lucky to get out a live with in 30 days of arriving - she went to Germany and he was far from how be betrayed himself on line.

Not sure where I was going with this anymore. It's almost strange but he seems to be interested in me as a whole person, and not just some means of sex. He is really nice and understanding and what not... Any comments

yes, i have a comment. you've already told us in another forum what he said about sex. i'm done with this and won't be "commenting" again. you know what you're doing. playing games here is difficult..........pat

First of all, Double, let me ask you...Where is this man from Syria located? Is he geographically near you? That is an important question.
We are all concerned for you, and so have already expressed opinions and concern.
I have thought a lot about the conversations you've had with him already, and which you've related here. A big red flag comes up that he sounds like a pimp slave trader!...harsh to say, but he's looking for vulnerable girls to get into his network.
There is no way this man could be "in love" with you.
Please listen to the advice others are giving you here.
Patty

I have to say that I agree with Pat. Is this game playing

I just took a sexism test at UnderstandingPrejudice.org (I scored quite well, thank you), and you can compare your scores to other countries (based on 15,000 responses, so they're not claiming it accurately reflects the whole country). One of those countries is Syria, and according to the responses, the men and women of Syria are very high in both forms of sexism this test covers, hostile sexism and ambivalent sexism. Follow the link for more info, and click on the "Ambivalent Sexism" link. In short, they tend to be hostile towards women's rights, and will usually blame the woman if she's raped or assaulted. This is probably not a very woman-friendly country.

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yes, i have a comment. you've already told us in another forum what he said about sex. i'm done with this and won't be "commenting" again. you know what you're doing. playing games here is difficult..........pat

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I feel used when someone tries this kind of duplicity.