confused by situations

I live in USA so I am not aware of UK laws.
Just really be cautious - the more freedom you give him, the easier it is for him to take advantage of a situation..

I completely agree with your reply. The OP needs to do what she thinks is best for her well being.

I'm thinking of you too. What he did sounds it was untenable to you. While there are limits how well I can respond I respect your privacy Figure if you wanted to be explicit you would of been as such. That said may your husband be a willing participant of the help he needs. By willing I mean motivated to get better and not by any other motivation on his part.

I'm not in the UK, I'm Canadian,..(oh the crown ya we have that too I don't know why it's still there) there's not much way to take advantage of this situation, I basically have some questions circling in my head driving me crazy I need the answers to, or at least need to yell at him about them, that's only reason I want my name off the order, I'm not afraid of him in the slightest if i was even a tiny bit afraid I'd never have made the request.

I had to look up that word "untenable" I got "not able to be maintained or defended against" yes it is completely undefinable, I do want him to get help for himself, but I don't think there will ever be forgiving on my part, it's impossible to see the future so I'm not gonna dwell on it.

Sorry for the mix up on where you live...

I am glad you are not scared of him. What I meant by taking advantage of the situation is maneuvering ways to get closer to your children again...

I'd stay as far as possible from such person.

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ya no that's not gonna happen, no way he's ever being near my kids again, (he might be able to get some sort of supervised visitation with our daughter when he's out of jail..but that's not really up to me, it's up to the court) he's also gonna have restrictions on being near anyone under 16 without supervision for some time, once I've made up my mind no one will convince me otherwise, including him and he will never see my daughters again.

Ok that's good. Just keep an eye out for example he can get in good with your neighbors or your friends or even your kids again - and convince the kids to meet him secretly or let him come over when you aren't there or contact him via the internet or phone, etc. Like I said - just be cautious.

*hugs*