[Pikku Myy]

I have been around here thru my 28 year abuse and controlling marriage, end of it, recovering, trying to date... and yes, bumping into someone that is so head over heals over me. I love him and his 3 kiddos. I am having major issues taking care of my mom, she is very ill. I am also dealing with daughter issues, family stuff.. I need to get thru this step first... he wants to marry me.I do not feel ready. I don't know to explain it, smarter than me and I am irritated by his kindness.

My dying mom loves him and now does my daughter. Is it wrong to want space?

[Pikku Myy]

What if I am changing thru this process?

[Crazy Hitch]

It's not wrong to need space.

You're dealing with a lot on your plate right now and seem to be taking care of everyone but YOU.

You need time for yourself and to focus on yourself.

If you don't feel ready for marriage, bottom line is, you're not ready.

It's hard to say how to accept love. Feeling worthy and deserving as a human being who is lovable and worthy of love is a good start. And you ARE worth it.

It is fine to want space. You may need it as you were in a very long marriage and you have a lot of other things going on in your life.

I think a therapist could be of benefit to you. To process the end of your marriage and help you cope with everything you are dealing right now. I think this will give you relief, insight and clarity as to whether you want to remarry ... and if so, how you'll know when you are ready.

My intuition says that his having three children might be an issue for you. And that's ok. Depending on their ages and how much time/custody he has of his kids will undoubtedly have an impact on your relationship. It might be a positive thing. Or, it might not. Three children makes for a busy household, they at times will be the focus of the household and you may not want to be parenting again (if you have grown children of your own). Disregard this if I'm mistaken. Good luck.