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#1
Jul 01, 2016, 06:54 AM
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How do you get women to respond to your messages? I'm having a hard time with this. They are pretty much ignoring me. I have been told not to put a lot of selfies on my profile, but the women on these are mostly putting up selfies them selves. I don't think I'm being superficial looks wise. I have showed some pictures of these women to some of my guy friends and they don't think there to "hot" for me. I don't have very good communication skills with women.
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 Artchic528, Crazy Hitch
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Jul 01, 2016, 07:09 AM
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Nothing wrong with selfies. Much more natural than glamour shots.
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#3
Jul 01, 2016, 07:12 AM
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"Less is more". One or two decent ones of you and you should be all set to go. Not sure how long you've been on there for but just wanted to say good luck.
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Jul 01, 2016, 07:59 AM
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I find that online dating is either hit or miss. For me, it's been more miss than hit. I have had only two relationships come out of it over the course of 6 or so years, but nothing truly serious.
I wish you luck, and hope you find a relationship that lasts.
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#5
Jul 01, 2016, 07:59 AM
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I don't know if you have just one picture or none - but lots of people won't reply if there is no picture available.
What all do you include in the messages that get ignored?
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Jul 01, 2016, 08:01 AM
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Well I have two pictures and I usually say a simple "hello their "username" how's it going"? Sent from my iPad using Tapatalk |
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#7
Jul 01, 2016, 08:02 AM
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What do you guys find in a message from a man that gets you to respond?
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#8
Jul 01, 2016, 08:07 AM
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Oh that's why. Lots of people will ignore messages that have zero individuality in them. There's nothing to show them that you've read their profile, you don't give them any incentive to read your profile, you don't display any commonalities between you. There's nothing funny or engaging that draws in replies. It's ok to by shy - you can even include something like that in your messages if you are someone who uses self-deprecating humour.
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"The time has come, the Walrus said, to talk of many things. Of shoes, of ships, of sealing wax, of cabbages, of kings! Of why the sea is boiling hot, of whether pigs have wings..." "I have a problem with low self-esteem. Which is really ridiculous when you consider how amazing I am. |
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Jul 01, 2016, 08:12 AM
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Ok I've heard this before I'll try this. Thanks Sent from my iPad using Tapatalk |
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Jul 01, 2016, 08:20 AM
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What gets me TO respond is a guy whose picture isn't obviously fake (aka a glam shot of a male model looking guy in a studio of some sort). I like a guy who's not posting a selfie flexing in the bathroom mirror without a shirt on (that's usually a good sign that they are not only rather vain, but just looking for a quick hook-up for the night and nothing serious). I'd rather they just be smiling happily and maybe holding a cute dog or something (I am a sucker for a guy with a cute, soft and cuddly pet). However, the number one reason I respond to messages is because I am physically attracted to him and our personalities are similar. I prefer the geeky/nerdy type, as I am like that myself. I also am liberal when it comes to politics and beliefs, so I obviously look for that in any guy who messages me. I can't imagine it would work if our beliefs were radically different. Anyways, I hope I helped clarify things somewhat for you. Good luck! 
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Jul 01, 2016, 09:35 AM
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I never replied to such messages. You need to speak of a specific thing that caught your attention in their profiles. You can ask questions or make comments etc "hey what's up" isn't a conversation starter Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk |
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Jul 01, 2016, 11:49 AM
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Jul 01, 2016, 11:57 AM
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Don't comment on their photos. Unless it's like "hey I see on your picture you were in Vegas' I've always wanted to go there'". If you comment on appearance in the first message then they will easily jump to hook-up
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Jul 01, 2016, 12:07 PM
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Ok gotcha.
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Jul 01, 2016, 12:48 PM
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you can say I see you like movies, I do too, I like comedy the most, what movies do you like? Or my favorite movie is XYZ have you ever seen it? Or I see you like art and I do too but I I cant even draw a straight line, do you make art or just admire it etc etc ask questions that are not invasive but are conversation starters based on her interests, don't comment on looks though Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk |
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Jul 01, 2016, 02:06 PM
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Jul 01, 2016, 05:17 PM
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Well I'm getting the women to visit my profile now but there not saying anything back.:/ should I message the ones that visited my page again or leave them alone?
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Jul 01, 2016, 06:27 PM
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Sure try it
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Jul 01, 2016, 06:49 PM
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Jul 01, 2016, 06:52 PM
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Jul 01, 2016, 09:30 PM
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Same as I suggested before
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Jul 02, 2016, 01:51 AM
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I personally look at a lot of pages of people I am not interested in. So I wouldn't recommend this.
I would respond to those who "liked" a picture or who sent an email. I agree you should say something more than "Hi, what is up". |
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