[ladytiger]

Friends and I had a fight last night. I disclosed how much I have in my checking. It was $ that I saved up from previous job arguing with me about how did I save that calling me a scam artist.

I told them how much I was operating under a part time salary. They said I could have had a years worth of rent paid on my own I said factor in other expenses plus if emergencies come up. It wasn't a good financial decision 4 me to do basically didn't have anywhere to go I wasn't gonna put myself into a huge financial hole. My sister knows what happened she agreed saying I wouldn't have done that.

Sister said there was something else that was going on that you didn't see she's frustrated because hubby ain't working. I got abuse from friends saying how the wife makes more than me hubby gets a VA check makes more than me even if he was unemployed. He works a odd job with a friend no get a real check!

Another friend agreed they found a way to push you out. If they didn't want me there wife shouldn't have open up her home. My sister said I feel sorry whoever the next person rents from them. Sister and friend said it's about the money money you saved from previous while they are struggling how dare you that's all I heard last night and the night before.

Hubby said I took the friendship and turned it into a business because I use people for my own gain. Everybody on here had told me get a roommate and you can't afford rent on your own under part time. This wife is an accountant yet having financial issues! Everything in the house is in her name 2 cars 3 cell phones 7 dogs 4 cats tons of fish. Hubby said I painted a sob story the Apts we all got evicted. Technically I was homeless wasn't making crap from previous job homeless now while being at this new job for 2 weeks under 90 day probation.

I've known these friends for a year. I told wife you're jealous by what I saved she got defensive claiming she's glad that I saved that much $ yet didn't tell them in the beginning. I feel now I shouldn't have disclose my info I said that's not important what's important is going by what I was making biweekly not what I have in my accounts then pitched at me for having a 403b with previous employer.

They said I wouldn't be surprised if I have 10 in my savings which I don't. We were in this kink dynamic she was my mistress a mentoring relationship. They said why does her son have to suffer? He works has nothing to do with me. His assets have nothing to do with me friends felt I wasn't grateful didn't take **** seriously I took it seriously I did what she wanted. I'm sure I'm gonna be equated to my ex. Hubby said he doesn't want friends like me I said I don't want jealous friends who mistreat someone like this. Wife was right in the very beginning of moving in if this wasn't gonna work live somewhere else.

Hubby said go tell this same sob story to other people who will believe your lies. Sister said they are living beyond their means they have 7 dogs 4 cats and fish! I helped take care of them and cleaned the house. She said I wasn't grateful? I wasn't grateful because I frowned at pork that they like but I don't eat sorry don't like pork. I are food they provided and I bought my own.

Wife said I'd hear you and my hubby laughing and talking when I came in you stopped talking. That's true I figured she and hubby needed to talk before she went to work. I clicked with him better than her I felt like walking on eggshells with her than him. No I didn't sleep with her man my sister said Ahh that's what's up jealous because i had a better connection with her hubby than her.

They said earlier in the very beginning that I was gonna end up ruining the friendship we they helped end it. Wife said I'm toxic that me being there caused her too much stress you shouldn't have offered me a room I rented a room. The mentoring felt like nagging parents her son isn't her husband's child son is 19. Wife said before we moved in you and I were nothing but acquaintances excuse me? She considered me a friend before going through drama with my ex to now I was just an acquaintance? She said if you need help don't take friends for granted. So I figured I was a friend to her always told me she cared about me.

Wife got deep issues from what I was told about her and her mom yea I can see it. They told me they have a right to brag about what they have versus what I don't I said real friends don't brag. 4th time wife told me how much she makes! Her hubby turns over his $ to her she runs the show in her house. It's not fair to me that her anger is being taken out on me.

We got into an argument about jobs I explained my job experience with the interviews I said that's the reality of what's really going on which is bs. I applied to other low paying jobs some turned me down had to leave messages after messages attitude from the receptionist about the status of my application.

They said you probably used other people in the past. The past is in the past they can believe what they want. I told them in a text as I left thank you for the month whether you believe this or not is up to you I have no animosity. I said it politely no need 4 hatred. I'll make it without their help.

Just venting so upset.

[divine1966]

I am confused. Have you lived with them rent free?

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Originally Posted by ladytiger

Friends and I had a fight last night. I disclosed how much I have in my checking. It was $ that I saved up from previous job arguing with me about how did I save that calling me a scam artist.

I told them how much I was operating under a part time salary. They said I could have had a years worth of rent paid on my own I said factor in other expenses plus if emergencies come up. It wasn't a good financial decision 4 me to do basically didn't have anywhere to go I wasn't gonna put myself into a huge financial hole. My sister knows what happened she agreed saying I wouldn't have done that.

Sister said there was something else that was going on that you didn't see she's frustrated because hubby ain't working. I got abuse from friends saying how the wife makes more than me hubby gets a VA check makes more than me even if he was unemployed. He works a odd job with a friend no get a real check!

Another friend agreed they found a way to push you out. If they didn't want me there wife shouldn't have open up her home. My sister said I feel sorry whoever the next person rents from them. Sister and friend said it's about the money money you saved from previous while they are struggling how dare you that's all I heard last night and the night before.

Hubby said I took the friendship and turned it into a business because I use people for my own gain. Everybody on here had told me get a roommate and you can't afford rent on your own under part time. This wife is an accountant yet having financial issues! Everything in the house is in her name 2 cars 3 cell phones 7 dogs 4 cats tons of fish. Hubby said I painted a sob story the Apts we all got evicted. Technically I was homeless wasn't making crap from previous job homeless now while being at this new job for 2 weeks under 90 day probation.

I've known these friends for a year. I told wife you're jealous by what I saved she got defensive claiming she's glad that I saved that much $ yet didn't tell them in the beginning. I feel now I shouldn't have disclose my info I said that's not important what's important is going by what I was making biweekly not what I have in my accounts then pitched at me for having a 403b with previous employer.

They said I wouldn't be surprised if I have 10 in my savings which I don't. We were in this kink dynamic she was my mistress a mentoring relationship. They said why does her son have to suffer? He works has nothing to do with me. His assets have nothing to do with me friends felt I wasn't grateful didn't take **** seriously I took it seriously I did what she wanted. I'm sure I'm gonna be equated to my ex. Hubby said he doesn't want friends like me I said I don't want jealous friends who mistreat someone like this. Wife was right in the very beginning of moving in if this wasn't gonna work live somewhere else.

Hubby said go tell this same sob story to other people who will believe your lies. Sister said they are living beyond their means they have 7 dogs 4 cats and fish! I helped take care of them and cleaned the house. She said I wasn't grateful? I wasn't grateful because I frowned at pork that they like but I don't eat sorry don't like pork. I are food they provided and I bought my own.

Wife said I'd hear you and my hubby laughing and talking when I came in you stopped talking. That's true I figured she and hubby needed to talk before she went to work. I clicked with him better than her I felt like walking on eggshells with her than him. No I didn't sleep with her man my sister said Ahh that's what's up jealous because i had a better connection with her hubby than her.

They said earlier in the very beginning that I was gonna end up ruining the friendship we they helped end it. Wife said I'm toxic that me being there caused her too much stress you shouldn't have offered me a room I rented a room. The mentoring felt like nagging parents her son isn't her husband's child son is 19. Wife said before we moved in you and I were nothing but acquaintances excuse me? She considered me a friend before going through drama with my ex to now I was just an acquaintance? She said if you need help don't take friends for granted. So I figured I was a friend to her always told me she cared about me.

Wife got deep issues from what I was told about her and her mom yea I can see it. They told me they have a right to brag about what they have versus what I don't I said real friends don't brag. 4th time wife told me how much she makes! Her hubby turns over his $ to her she runs the show in her house. It's not fair to me that her anger is being taken out on me.

We got into an argument about jobs I explained my job experience with the interviews I said that's the reality of what's really going on which is bs. I applied to other low paying jobs some turned me down had to leave messages after messages attitude from the receptionist about the status of my application.

They said you probably used other people in the past. The past is in the past they can believe what they want. I told them in a text as I left thank you for the month whether you believe this or not is up to you I have no animosity. I said it politely no need 4 hatred. I'll make it without their help.

Just venting so upset.

From the sound of it, they used you ...

Especially the part about you being the wife's kinky mistress and her mentoring you!

Please, learn to love and care more about yourself than to allow others to use your body in exchange for food, clothing and shelter.

I know it's hard out here when we're alone and on our own, but ...

In spite of the struggles, at least we get to keep our dignity and self-respect in tact!



Sincerely,
Pfrog!

[ladytiger]

Originally Posted by divine1966

I am confused. Have you lived with them rent free?

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No I paid 50 per check which is 100 dollars from previous employer. We haven't had a chance to budget for this new job got paid this week. The agreement was pay rent help out cleaning and help with the dogs which I did. No utilities.

[ladytiger]

[QUOTE=Pfrog;5158577]From the sound of it, they used you ...

Especially the part about you being the wife's kinky mistress and her mentoring you!

Please, learn to love and care more about yourself than to allow others to use your body in exchange for food, clothing and shelter.

I know it's hard out here when we're alone and on our own, but ...

In spite of the struggles, at least we get to keep our dignity and self-respect in tact!

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Have you heard of bdsm? That's a lifestyle we're in this was agreed upon by being her submissive. She is a Mistress as her hubby is her slave which we had a long talk of negotiation. There was no sex involved at all involved just an agreement of bettering myself by placing my trust to her.

Thanks for clarifying that ...

I still feel as if they used you ... Roommate situations of any kind can be so flaky!

This.
Is.
Why.
I.
Live.
Alone.

Sincerely,
Pfrog!

[divine1966]

Bettering yourself under her guidance sounds fishy to me as she doesn't strike me as a role model to provide any kind of guidance. Don't know what kind of "bettering" she meant and I wouldn't put any trust in her. Get a full time job and live alone or with decent roommates, not this crew.

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[ladytiger]

Originally Posted by divine1966

Bettering yourself under her guidance sounds fishy to me as she doesn't strike me as a role model to provide any kind of guidance. Don't know what kind of "bettering" she meant and I wouldn't put any trust in her. Get a full time job and live alone or with decent roommates, not this crew.

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I just got a new full time job been there for 2 weeks now. I'm back with my mom 4 a short period until I know what's up with my 90 day probation. Bettering me meaning so I can be an independent woman providing me with my guidance etc the woman is an accountant with financial issues.

I got kicked out today I'd love 4 peace and quiet they said get a place paying for a years worth of rent. I started a new job. Now in the meantime I'll keep my eyes open on apartments. I might think about another roommate I know my sister would say uh no you're done lol. Just need to distress and unwind get a clear head.

[ladytiger]

They said you were paying less than her son he was paying like 137 per check his assets have nothing to do with me. Hubby asked why should his college savings suffer because of me like wtf? Her mortgage is 1500 you divide 4 people in the house they felt I screwed her son over. Her son and I didn't talk much rarely saw him nice guy. Son said mom is very generous with rent yet botched about what I saved! He said mom can't afford to go to coffee events who's fault is that she can't save 50 bucks. Wife had the nerve to have tears last night saying to me you don't see you have a problem using people for your own gain oh really? Coming from a jealous woman an accountant with financial issues can't get it together!

I was toxic and a big stress 4 her in the house wow I looked at them like keep talking proved how selfish they are but they said I'm selfish complacent etc. If I brought in those levels should have asked me to leave much sooner.

[divine1966]

It sounds crazy that woman has her son living there yet she engages in kinky stuff having you as a mistress and husband a slave. With son living there?

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[ladytiger]

Originally Posted by divine1966

It sounds crazy that woman has her son living there yet she engages in kinky stuff having you as a mistress and husband a slave. With son living there?

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Son is 19 almost ready to move out. He's hardly home he knows about the lifestyle. I was her submissive not a Mistress. She's a Mistress to her hubby. One friend and his gf I met up with today he said he saw how this wasn't gonna be a good fit for them to mentor me. He said you have a string of having negative relationships

[divine1966]

I wouldn't want this person to mentor me even if my life depended on it. They can't figure out their own lives, they shouldn't be mentoring no one else.

I agree that you have a tendency to settle with wrong people. Stir away. Hopefully you can move on with your life

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[ladytiger]

Originally Posted by divine1966

I wouldn't want this person to mentor me even if my life depended on it. They can't figure out their own lives, they shouldn't be mentoring no one else.

I agree that you have a tendency to settle with wrong people. Stir away. Hopefully you can move on with your life

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I agree friends said figure out what you want. If only I was in therapy now. Probably understand why my ex stopped talking to them. Friends said sounded like they weren't ready 4 another person to move in. They were rushing to get the spare room ready. Throwing in my face how they are all that with financial issues hardly any food in the house really has some nerve.

[ladytiger]

Originally Posted by Pfrog

Thanks for clarifying that ...

I still feel as if they used you ... Roommate situations of any kind can be so flaky!

This.
Is.
Why.
I.
Live.
Alone.

Sincerely,
Pfrog!

I totally agree. Thought I was doing better 4 myself my sis said you left drama and went back to it. Bad luck seems to follow me.

[ladytiger]

I forgot to ask my sis said I give out too much info how can I politely tell people it's none of their biz and how to deflect backlash? Ex friends said we needed to be honest and transparent etc. How do you be honest yet maintain info you don't want to share?

[divine1966]

You aren't required to be transparent with roommates. It's not the same as spouses. As about honesty sure you don't want to be dishonest in terms of stealing for example but honesty doesn't mean you tell your secrets to roommates. You know this kinky couple for year and rented a room from them. You didn't marry them. They are idiots asking for thrasperency. My mom doesn't know what is in my account, surely I wouldn't be telling roommates.

I think you need to choose people better. Decent people wouldn't be asking for info that you even need to worry disclosing

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[ladytiger]

Originally Posted by divine1966

You aren't required to be transparent with roommates. It's not the same as spouses. As about honesty sure you don't want to be dishonest in terms of stealing for example but honesty doesn't mean you tell your secrets to roommates. You know this kinky couple for year and rented a room from them. You didn't marry them. They are idiots asking for thrasperency. My mom doesn't know what is in my account, surely I wouldn't be telling roommates.

I think you need to choose people better. Decent people wouldn't be asking for info that you even need to worry disclosing

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Makes sense I was thinking of finding another roomie who wants drama? Lol we'll see have to look at my checks when they start accumulating hopefully I'll be ready to get my own place

[unaluna]

I think these people felt betrayed because they thought they were opening their home to help someone who had no place else to go. That you couldnt stay with your mother without suffering psychological harm, and that your only option might be a homeless shelter. That was also the impression i had.

I understand that you dont WANT to use up your savings. But thats not the same as not actually having any savings. With one, you eat. With the other, maybe not.

[divine1966]

Oh I see. I kind of missed that part. If you could afford your own place or place with roommates where you would have to pay normal rent, (50 per pay check is kind of living for free) then I could see why they got mad. But then again if they expected some kinky stuff in return then maybe they aren't that innocent. Hm. Bottom line try to get on your own feet.

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[ladytiger]

I suppose. I did the math let's say 500 times 12 for a year is 7200 that's just rent without the other stuff that knocked down my checking drastically before I got this full time job. We agreed 100 bucks I would have made a huge costly sacrifice. I gotta cover my *** while being on probation in case if I don't go perm I look out 4 that too.

Kinky stuff is a lifestyle we're in so I was in agreement. Like I said if there was other issues i didn't know they are at fault too. A roommate would have been easier in case something went wrong with this job. They made it worse by bragging about what they have knowing they got financial issues hardly any food in that house.

I have done the math on my own a lot with my previous part time job. Even with the amount I saved I still couldn't afford it lots of people have asked me how could you afford it? You need full time to pull your weight