[imarae]

my name is jessica i am 27 years old mother of a 2 year old girl. Her dad and i are not in a relationship. We lack communication when it comes to anything even our daughter. Respect is gone because of all the hurt and pain he caused me in the past. I want to try and have a better relationship with him when it comes to our daughter and i want to be cordial so we can coparent. I feel he is very stubborn at times and always wants to be right, i feel he tries to control me with sex. He always wants to sleep with me whenever i tell him i want to talk and i told him i feel he uses sex as a solution for everything. How can i be a better individual in order to be a better parent and communicate better without letting my anger get the best of me?

[divine1966]

Go through courts. Courts could help you to develop proper communication channels such as emails or other resources. Certainly if you continue sleeping with him you will continue having problems. I recommend you stop

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[LacunaCoiler]

Be strong and firm and don't have sex with him until you get the discussion/talk you are looking for.

[Bill3]

when it comes to our daughter and i want to be cordial so we can coparent.

You are admirable in your desire but you cannot control what he does. Even though you want to coparent for the sake of your daughter, it may be that he is not man enough to coparent with you right now.

How can i be a better individual in order to be a better parent and communicate better without letting my anger get the best of me?

It sounds to me like you are blaming yourself for being angry. Do not forget that there is a righteous, justified kind of anger. For example, you have every right to be angry with him when he demands sex before he will cooperate on anything concerning your daughter. You have every right to be angry when he contributes next to nothing to the support of his daughter. You have every right to be angry about these things.

It sounds to me as though you don't need to be a "better individual" when it comes to coparenting: he does.

[~Christina]

You can go through co parenting classes that teach you how to deal with a divorce when children are involved.

Sleeping with him is doing nothing to help your situation at all and is also a risk of catching an STD from him.

Be strong and don't allow him to use you and ignore much needed comversations.