[dwfieldjr]

I know by now online dating might not be the best way to meet people, but I have a question. If a woman responds to your email once and you ask another question of her and she waits two days to respond back....should a guy respond back to her right away or wait a little bit. I didn't know if a guy responds back right way if that would make her think he is to needy or doesn't have anything to do with his time.

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[s4ndm4n2006]

Originally Posted by dwfieldjr

I know by now online dating might not be the best way to meet people, but I have a question. If a woman responds to your email once and you ask another question of her and she waits two days to respond back....should a guy respond back to her right away or wait a little bit. I didn't know if a guy responds back right way if that would make her think he is to needy or doesn't have anything to do with his time.

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You're over thinking it. I don't think many people really think about how long it takes for the other person to respond most times. Are there some people who do so? sure but I think more often than not if it's someone we want to hear from, we are just happy to get the response. Besides if she's scrutinizing the minutes, days, hours whatever it takes for you to respond, is that really someone that you want to have a relationship anyway?

Be yourself. Just do what you feel is right by you, don't try to be something you're not. if you're resisting responding for reasons to make it look like you're less excited to talk to her, then you're not being you.

As for me, for the most part, if it's someone I care about or care to get to know I respond as soon as I have a chance to. The person on the other end can take it or leave it. This is how I am and I'm not going to be any different esp not for a new acquaintance!

[dwfieldjr]

Thank you

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[divine1966]

My advice is not to play games, if you want to reply do so. People might be taking longer if they are busy.

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[A Red Panda]

The response time isn't really something to worry about.

Some people are uptight about it - but that's totally an indication of their personality. If they want instant replies (ok I'm thinking of texting right now) then we'll, it could indicate a lot of neediness or jealousy. If they get annoyed with quick replies then they're probably rather judgemental.

Or not! Everyone is different. And everyone has different schedules and habits. 😀 Plus if you get a message and reply right after it's been sent, then you're both online and could end up as a back and forth conversation!

[IchbinkeinTeufel]

Personally, I wouldn't really bother with it. I'm quite sure a lot of woman would also not bother, probably more so. 2 days for a simple message is a bit silly, when you're supposed to be looking for a date. That said, it's not so black and white, since, as mentioned, she could just be busy. I'm not saying I'd write her off, I just wouldn't care much... I'd assume she's not that interested. I can be difficult, though. I'm cynical and pessimistic.

Referring to Panda's post: I don't think I'm needy at all. Like many, I can be, but generally no. I don't think I'm especially jealous either; we can all get jealous from time to time. Two days would just be an indication to me personally that she's not that interested.

As for games... errrrghhh... I loathe that crap... if I get a hint a woman's dicking around for funsies, she can sod off and find someone else to pway wiff. Maybe I'm just getting old. xD

[A Red Panda]

Ichbin: I'm talking about when someone wants a response within minutes of sending a message. It is rather needy and unfair because it's expecting someone to drop everything at someone else's whim. I wasn't talking about responding within the same day. ��

I think 2 days for someone to reply on a dating site is totally fine. They could have been out of town, or meeting some deadlines, or just doing stuff they like to do. She might not be super active in looking for dates and may just be using the site just to see what's there. Or maybe she got used to not having many messages so doesn't check the site very often anymore. Tons of reasons! ��

I'd try and not overthink it. Personally, I would reply much sooner than two days if I was interested and I was able to. I'm not one to play games and if I am interested, I'm interested and I don't play coy.

I should preface that with the fact that I've no experience with online dating and I'm in a long term relationship. But I've have several relationships in my life and if I'm interested, I've shown my feelings. If they weren't reciprocated or they were game-playing, I moved on.

Two days would personally make me wonder if they were interested. However, I would give them a benefit of the doubt. They may be cautious due to their own issues but still interested. They may have been traveling for work or very sick. Or maybe they are just casual that way. I'm not needy, but I'm not casual. There's a difference.

I think that time will tell but I wouldn't write them off based on this response time. Meanwhile, enjoy yourself whatever you do. xo

I hope this helps!