[LibbyB68]

Hi all,
I have been in a fantastic relationship for 3 years...wonderful in every way. Just after Christmas my boyfriend moved out saying he loves me to bits but just can't let anyone in, he just feels the need to be alone. He has been diagnosed with depression and is now on medication and recieving counselling.

He is carrying around so much guilt for treating me so badly as he is always letting me down with no warning, that its got to the stage that he is having problems even speaking to me on the phone.

I feel I'm in a real dilemma....I don't want to loose him, but its causing him so much hurt I wonder if it would be best for him for me to finish it so he can concentrate on getting better and not have the worry of what this is doing to me (I am now on medication)

Any advice on how to help him would be great...just want things back to how they were

Thanks everyone

Jane

[(JD)]

Welcome and sorry to hear this, Jane.

<font color=blue> I think both of you realize that things might never get back to the way they were. And this doesn't have to be a bad thing!

<font color=purple> If you can "let go" of how it is now, and has been, then the two of you can plan to make it different in the future. A different relationship might help both of you become better!

<font color=green> We all know that pressure/stress can become overwhelming, especially when it comes from others, and we hardly handle our own thinking.

<font color=black> Contact him in a different, non threatening, non reply required way (a card? i.e.) Tell him things are okay between you and he, and add some of your own touches to what you think. Just being there, and not expecting anything (if you can) might help in itself. <font color=purple>

Hope this helps.

<font color=blue> meditation is a true way to connect to the Source </font color=blue>