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Jul 15, 2016, 09:29 PM
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Has anyone ever had to end friendships that threatened their recovery? For the past 4-5 weeks, I've been in a low spot and I've had to put distance between myself and some friends. Two friends wanted me to help them through their divorce (which was WAY too close to my own for me to handle). I had to cut one friend loose because she was sucking me dry and another because she pretty much told me to f myself because of my mental illness. There's a lot of distance between myself and my /best/ friend of 30+ years for the same reason.
In short, has anyone had to end or greatly modify friendships in order to keep their recovery healthy? Three of these four relationships were at least 10 years and people that I was close with. I'm having a hard time swallowing this. I feel very alone.
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Jul 16, 2016, 04:39 AM
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Hi there
You've made some really big decisions about friendships in a short time. No wonder you feel alone. The women who wanted you to help them through their divorces sound a bit insensitive. Could you have just distanced yourself for awhile, rather than ending the relationships? The one who was sucking you dry, well, good on you for realising and acting on it. The one who told you to go f yourself - that's harsh. Doesn't sound like she was much of a friend. I have cut relationships off before when they hurt me. Friends and family. Sometimes permanently, sometimes not. I have never regretted it, it needed to happen. The ones who are real are still around. The only relationships I would never sever are those with my children. Hugs
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Jul 16, 2016, 04:57 AM
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DIVORCING FRIENDS. i do it all the time. in fact i have divorced all my friends who drink they dont understand how tempting and ****** blacking out makes me experience traumatic stomach pumps and multiple trips to jail. just fade out gradually stop calling them get busy with quality friends who are open honest willing and available to make time for you cause your worth it.
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Jul 16, 2016, 09:00 AM
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The real friends are still around
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Jul 16, 2016, 09:11 AM
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Yes, I've had to shed myself of some friends, and I've also had some friends shed me as well ...
It does make for some loneliness and regret, but ...  Hoping that helps it hurt a little less ... Sincerely, Pfrog! 
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