Nudity in Movies

Good for asserting your feelings...he may not do anything about what he heard...at least your not bottling it up...keep on asserting...and by the way take the day and go to a spa or something if he decides to watch it...keep your word on what you will do if he does watch it...

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Direction said:
and by the way take the day and go to a spa or something if he decides to watch it...keep your word on what you will do if he does watch it...

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That sounds good, and I will buy my self a new outfit after being pampered..... maybe take a friend or one of my sisters with me.

That sounds exactly like me and my fiance. He ALWAYS tells me he doesn't watch these movies for the naked breasts, or women. I had a major breakdown this weekend because of something like this, and had to be driven to the Psychiatric hospital I have Body Dysmorphic Disorder, and really low self-esteem).
I actually go and cry my eyes out, if my fiance insists on watching a movie with "perfect women" in them. It's hard, when all you see when you turn on your t.v or walk into a movie store, is perfection. I can really relate to most of you.
I try to think positive, and shed some light on it, like I said in my first post.
Anyway, a movie must have a pretty bad story line, if they absolutely need to show breasts in it.

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summerflower22 said:
I have Body Dysmorphic Disorder, and really low self-esteem...

Anyway, a movie must have a pretty bad story line, if they absolutely need to show breasts in it.

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<font color="purple"> ((((((( HUGS ))))))) ~ ~ ~ ~ ((((((( HUGS ))))))) </font>

I am sorry for the PAIN & DESPAIR the BDD is causing YOU...... I know all about that disorder and I am open to talk to you about it if you need some one that understands from you side of the fence.

And - YES, I agree that they some times toss BREAST & Female BUTTS in a movie just to get better ratings even if the movie sucked........ booooooo.

and I just have to say this for it hit me like brick - Why don't we females get more naked male butt shots where they are strong firm and makes you think about the pushing ability...

(like in I-Robot with Will Smith) -

((( Rhap ))) sorry that you struggle with this.

I have no problem with nudity in movies or art, as long as it doesn't involve violence. We live in such a conservative country, which I rarely realize because I have always lived in very liberal cities. Nudity doesn't make me feel threatened in my relationship. And Rhap, with your, um, track record, I think it's safe to say that your husband finds you PLENTY attractive!

Two slightly O/T things I want to share:
- in my city earlier this year, there was an April Fool's joke that there was going to be a Naked Parade. People are so eager to get naked here that people actually showed up. We had huge participation in World Naked Bike Ride, and also had a nude 5k race. We have strip jeopardy at bars, and more than 60 strip clubs (I don't have a problem with those, either). So I guess I'm saying that nudity in movies isn't really all that shocking.

- there are quite a few nude beaches and clothing-optional hot springs in this region. This past winter, I was feeling really crappy about my weight - I've gained about 30 pounds in 7 years - but we went to one of the hot springs resorts and it was one of the best things I could have done for my self-esteem. Sure, my husband got to see lots of perfect bodies, but he also got to see that women come in every single shape and size imaginable. Maybe the movies portray only the 'perfect', but he is also very aware that most women do not have 'perfect' bodies, but while he admires and appreciates them, I never get the suspicion that he prefers them to me. So, I think there is something to be said for over-exposure, so to speak, to desensitize ourselves to the discomfort.

Hope all are well here. Hugs, LMo

- WOW! - good to see YOU........ it is strange (in a way) that you should be the last post in this thread - for I was just coming on to make a thread called Have You Seen LMo?" but I stopped in here first and there you were.

Not for sure why, but I started thinking about you today for some reason and then I realized I had not seen you posting these last few months (but then again I am usually on late these days) - so once again Good to see YOU around and to know that all is well with you.

BTW - thanks for the helpful advice - I am taking all that is said here in very well and rethinking were my feelings lay at.

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Nudity in movies does not bother me. I don't like pornography, but I have no problem with the human body. I don't have issues with sex scenes in movies or tv shows as long as they are tasteful. I'm not talking about late night skinamax or anything like that.

I don't mind my husband seeing nude women either. He married me, and he loves me, and he would never expect me to look like the airbrushed models do. Even if he thinks the women are attractive it doesn't bother me, because he married me. I'm sure he see's women he finds attractive on the street every day, just as I see men I find attractive. It doesn't mean that he wants them over me, or likewise.

I think our country tends to think of the human body as something someone should be ashamed or embarassed by, and thats sad. It's not good (imo) to teach children that nudity is wrong. We were all born naked.

In other countries I have visited nudity is much less of a tabboo thing. If you go to a public pool you will see women sun bathing topless, and its just a normal thing. Its not sexual, and there aren't guys staring at them or anything. The children aren't harmed by seeing naked breasts.

When I was in Germany on my honeymoon last year my husband and I were in a sauna and a group of locals walked in (2 couples) and they were naked. I was really embarassed at first, but then I had to think about why I was. They weren't embarassed, why should I be?

I dont have a problem with nudity in movies or art. Sometimes i worry my hubby would prefer one of them, but i always try to evaluate what the real problem is. I do not find that nudity itself is the problem but rather my insecurity. And if the problem is mine, and not the nudity, it is my problem to deal with (with hubby's support if neccessary) and do not prevent my husband from seeing it in movies, especially ones that do have a plot other than sexual nature. I do not punish my husband for my problem. At most, I will choose to not watch it with him and do something else.

many times in movies women like to watch there are the "perfect men" that a regular man could never live up to. Not just appearance wise but behavior wise. Should a man not allow a girl to watch chic flicks with overly romantic, strong, sensitive, handsome, perfect men because they feel insecure that you would prefer one of these men to them?

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I do not find that nudity itself is the problem but rather my insecurity.
And if the problem is mine, and not the nudity, it is my problem to deal with...

I do not punish my husband for my problem.

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Yes - I agree with you, it is the person with the issue of naked women that has the problem and they alone should seek to find the root of this problem and work from there........... and yet this is where it gets hard, for my husband and his past porn addiction is at the root of this issue for me.

I did not have an issue with female nudity until after he rejected me for so long for what his eyes saw online, in magazines and in adult movies that I subconsciously developed a fear of beautiful sexy females (this fear even has a name, but I forget right now) - and I am so desperately trying to over come this deep seeded fear so as not let it control my life, my love for my husband or how I spend days any more.

I have grown a lot in this area since my husband gave up his porn use and lusting five years ago.... and yet it is hard at times for me to not want to punish him for my problem with him seeing naked females - for he created this issue in and for me.

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kelllie said:
Should a man not allow a girl to watch chic flicks with overly romantic, strong, sensitive, handsome, perfect men because they feel insecure that you would prefer one of these men to them.

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Hmm - to be honest I do not believe men think the same way as we females do with these type of issues - I do not think it would bother them at all....... heck it probably does not bother them that we see other men naked? - as long as we are theirs.

I personally think a man should be worried if we (the females) started to have lunch or dinner along with a man that was willing to give to us emotionally and willing to listen to our needs, wants, desires and upsets.

... but then again from what I have learned from other females in serious relationships..... a lot of men will not even do any thing when things are going wrong until you are actually walking out the door.

Hey, thanks for your response to my post I'm glad I'm not the only one out there, that thinks like this.
It's also neat that you know about BDD, not many people do. It's a constant struggle everyday, then to be exposed to things like that only makes it worse. I try and do my best and sometimes avoid certain movies that have that stuff in it, but you can only do so much.

remember we were born naked so, what is so offensive about nudity if the nudes are comfortable with it? in movies, the viewers will have to decide about it.

Me too, Though funny as it may seem, I am ok with it as long as I am not married. I can view it by myself but prefer not to and I can view it with a boyfreind but not with a husband. This I can't quite figure out why.

I was raised by an old fashioned mom and she was a christian also but also I was molested as a child for about 6 yrs. I have seen a therapist over it and she suggested a few things but none of which helped so far. My next step is Hypnosis because I want to get rid of this fear. Its in alot of movies and with a future husband I don't want this to interfere with our relationship. I want to find a way to accept it better. I hope it works.