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I talk to way to many creepy guys and it's affecting my friendships I think the reason why a lot of my female friends don't talk to me as much, is because I was always talking about the creeps but still talked to them. I am tired so tired of paying attention to creepy men or men in general because there honestly the reason why I have no friends and feel alone. I am paying all the attention on people that aren't even worth my thoughts just obsessing. A lot of why I do it is because I feel like these are they only people that would like me and have in common even though I am not a weird sleaze. I have no idea why I ended up attaching myself to these guys maybe there is a lot of self blame and hatred to myself for how these sleazy guys treated me. One thing that I will say the men I talk to are a lot less creepier than the ones I used to talk to. Hopefully one day as I discover my strengths I might find the friends that mirror my strengths, not my downfalls, and negative thinking.

How about finding young women your age and not make creepy men the focus of your life? People like talking about themselves. Ask women questions...for example, you love makeup and most women do, too. Get to know THEM. Go makeup shopping together, a girl-to-girl chat over coffee at a bookstore, etc. Friendships become more mutual over time and it's best to keep talk light-hearted in the beginning.

Perhaps this would be healthy for you. It's certainly normal to have female friends, at any age. Is something holding you back from seeking female friendships or is it something you don't need or want? It's totally optional, just an idea.

Good luck.

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Originally Posted by rainyday107

How about finding young women your age and not make creepy men the focus of your life? People like talking about themselves. Ask women questions...for example, you love makeup and most women do, too. Get to know THEM. Go makeup shopping together, a girl-to-girl chat over coffee at a bookstore, etc. Friendships become more mutual over time and it's best to keep talk light-hearted in the beginning.

Perhaps this would be healthy for you. It's certainly normal to have female friends, at any age. Is something holding you back from seeking female friendships or is it something you don't need or want? It's totally optional, just an idea.

Good luck.

I always felt intimidated by having friendships with females I always feared there *****y gossiping behaviour so I have tended to go the other way when they say hi. I just don't feel comfortable with females and I always feel like they are about to verbally abuse me. Maybe it's the relationship I had that has affected me? I will focus on looking at these feelings and beliefs but only when I feel emotionally ready. I just don't feel ready to deal with the hurt from females in the past...