[stolemyheart87]

How many of you, don't like talking on the phone or video chatting with your dates, or current partners, Boyfriends, Girlfriends, Fiance, Wives, Husbands, etc. Because you never know what to say, or you just prefer texting, emailing, messaging back and forth instead, or even prefer talking in-person over calling or video chatting. Why is this, do you think so many people just don't feel comfortable talking to their partner's this way.

I have problems with family members in that I can't chat rather must keep the call short, succint, and down to business. As for friends and aquaintances, I can't talk to on the phone at all. I prefer text or (written) chat via Skype or Facebook. I can't answer the phone at all if it is a number I don't recognize.

I get a great deal of anxiety on the phone. I wonder if it is from the fact that growing up I never used it for social reasons (I had no friends to call me). Thus the phone was solely for conducting business. You said what needed to be said and that was the end of any conversation. I feel uncomfortable on the phone - especially of moments of silence. It's excruciating. My boyfriend seems to understand this though and it is easier to talk to him than others.

Possible reason two is that I have a small degree of hearing loss. Not being able to see the other person speak leaves me ill at ease.

[stolemyheart87]

Oh I see. Well that sucks.

[divine1966]

I hate talking on the phone as its too time consuming

[stolemyheart87]

Why don't you like talking on the phone, do you just not like it, or do you have nothing to say when talking on the phone or video chatting?

[divine1966]

Originally Posted by stolemyheart87

Why don't you like talking on the phone, do you just not like it, or do you have nothing to say when talking on the phone or video chatting?

Oh I have something to say. If I have nothing to say then those aren't people i want to talk to then.

It's just very time consuming. Unless I am driving and have nothing else to do. Or sonetimes I can't hear well with background noise etc I never liked talking on the phone. I do Skype with my daughter though regularly as she lives too far for me to see her often enough.

[stolemyheart87]

Oh well that's nice. I still prefer talking on the phone and video chatting, I just find it easier.

[divine1966]

Originally Posted by stolemyheart87

Oh well that's nice. I still prefer talking on the phone and video chatting, I just find it easier.

Was there a reason you asked in the first place? Like does it bother you or you just generally wanted to know?

[stolemyheart87]

It bothers me that my guy doesn't like talking on the phone or video chatting, but he is this way with everyone.

I also have some anxiety talking on the phone..
I think it's because I get nervous in general and will stumble on my words sometimes, but in text I can review everything before sending it out. I'm always worried I'll make a bad impression over the phone, too. I have never done it, but I doubt I'd like video chatting. I'd be even more nervous!

[divine1966]

Well I'd be nervous skyping/video chatting with people I barely know. I do it a lot because I have bunch of family overseas and my daughter lives far but certainly wouldn't skype with a guy I don't know. You are putting way too much pressure on men you just meet. After 4 dates you act as you are in a committed relationship and even equate your situation with these strangers to our interactions with loved ones. That's not the same. You'll scare people way acting so clingy. Just my opinion

[stolemyheart87]

Yeah whatever, I know what I want and I know what I like and all that stuff.

[divine1966]

I really don't understand the issue. You made multiple threads about how many things are going wrong in your dating experience with this guy. It's understandable there are things you want but you can't force people to do things they don't care about. . So it's confusing what's the problem. What is the exact issue here?

[avlady]

i like communicating in any sort of way, probably because i'm lonely alot.

[scorpiosis37]

You've made numerous threads about all the things you dislike about this guy and it's only been 4 dates. Maybe it's time to find someone you like better?

[stolemyheart87]

I've been looking for someone else while still dating this guy and but all the guys I find are losers. They don't drive, don't work, just want sex. I want real love, attention, communication, being able to go out on dates with my date partner etc.

[scorpiosis37]

Originally Posted by stolemyheart87

I've been looking for someone else while still dating this guy and but all the guys I find are losers. They don't drive, don't work, just want sex. I want real love, attention, communication, being able to go out on dates with my date partner etc.

Dating someone "because there's no one else" isn't a good reason. Clearly, this guy isn't giving you the things you want. Maybe you should just be single until the right one comes along? Dating the wrong one doesn't make a lot of sense.

[stolemyheart87]

Why would being single and wait until the right one comes along, when I have to be the one out looking for that one?

[scorpiosis37]

Originally Posted by stolemyheart87

Why would being single and wait until the right one comes along, when I have to be the one out looking for that one?

Huh? I'm not sure what you are saying.

I just know that dating the wrong person isn't going to get you any closer to finding the right one. It's also possible to meet people out and about in life, or by coincidence, rather than working sooo hard to find someone. When I'm single, I may keep a dating profile up or keep an eye out when I'm in big groups of friends/acquaintances, but I don't make finding a date my #1 priority. I just live life and if someone comes along, great. If not, I'm already satisfied with my life.

[stolemyheart87]

That's why I am single, yes I am dating this guy for 2 months, but I can talk and date others as well. He and I are both still on dating websites, so he may be doing the same thing as I am. If he really liked me I would guess he would delete the dating websites and all that stuff but he hasn't so he likes me, and wants to date but wants to look around, just like I am doing, which is fine.