[Blues066]

How do you deal with someone that is selfish and self absorbed and you apologize for something from the bottom of your heart, and ask them for forgiveness, and they will not even entertain the thought because they are just being an a##?

[Crazy Hitch]

Some people aren't very forgiving by nature. I guess for me, personally, it depends on the extent of my relationship with the other person. If it was my significant other, I'd take real offense. In having said that, actions speak louder than words and by saying sorry were implying it's something we're going to try prevent from happening again.

[~Christina]

As Crazy Hutch said it would depend on who this person is.

I tend to call people on not accepting my apology ... It gets a bit messy at times but I have little patience for drama at this stage if my life .

I will give a different point of view.

This affects how I view apologies-

1.It depends on the gravity of the transgression. Somethings are very hard to forgive.
2.It depends on whether it has happened before. Have you made this mistake over and over again?
3. It depends on the sincerity of the apology. Do you seem sincere?

[t0rtureds0ul]

I'm in an abusive situation with someone who does this to remain in control. His anger - and my fear of it - mean he is constantly putting me in a position where I need to apologise for - well, everything. All the time. Or he'll get angry

[Blues066]

Originally Posted by ValentinaVVV

I will give a different point of view.

This affects how I view apologies-

1.It depends on the gravity of the transgression. Somethings are very hard to forgive.
2.It depends on whether it has happened before. Have you made this mistake over and over again?
3. It depends on the sincerity of the apology. Do you seem sincere?

It was with my ex, She ended out relationship several months ago, she we still have communication on and off, but she is still very cold and selfish, an self absorbed, she never communicated to me that there were any problems or she was having any problems, but suddenly came up and decided she wanted to split up, all she said was we had grown apart..

At first I tried to place the blame on her for everything, but then I started to do some major soul searching and went though a self help/improvement course and discovered A LOT about myself and A LOT about the relationship that I had done to cause her to come to the decisions she had made, I had just started to take her for granted, I myself didnt communicated with her the way I should due to past communication problems for me growing up, I wasn't sympathetic to problems she was having due to stress in a past job, in a nut shell, its just all around being disrespectful to her....but through my course and realization I learned all this and I explained it to her and I whole heartedly apologized to her...but she didnt even seem to want to entertain the apology.