[stolemyheart87]

Since discovering what cussing was all about, I've cussed around the house, around my parents, in typical talking conversations, and lately my mom has been pissy about what I say, so much so she gets really upset. Like for example the other night, I put water on to boil for coffee, and I had said something like "Who gives a damn, if the dishes are in the sink" and she got mad I had said damn. Like really?

Then another night right away she goes and tells me, even though I ALREADY know this, she goes and tells me "Don't forget to help your dad with the groceries, when he comes home." It's like I ALREADY KNOW THAT, WHY DO YOU INSIST ON TELLING ME?

So my dad comes home and I didn't hurry along to help bring in the food and right away "Natalie, go help your dad" it's like **** I ALREADY KNOW. And I said that to her "Its like **** I already ****ing know" and right away mom says "Don't talk to me like that, don't cuss at me, I don't like it."

Its like who gives a ****? You know me, you know I cuss like this, and lately every time I say 1 single word that is cussing, you freak out and get mad at me? Give me a break!

My mom and I always are fighting like this and I just don't get it.

[Crazy Hitch]

My mother never tolerated me swearing around her, and I respected that. Don't believe I've used the F word in front of her, but I sure as hell say it out loud when I'm alone.

[Trippin2.0]

Are you seriously wondering what her problem is?


Why would you swear at your mother / while talking to her?

Have you no respect for her?

My daughter must try doing that! Hmph


In case I'm not very clear, your mother hates it because its disrespectful and you should not be talking to her like that.


Learn to use your words and show some respect. You're not talking to your peers, she's your mother.


And its perfectly ok if you don't perceive cussing as disrespectful, but then be respectful enough to understand that others do.

[stolemyheart87]

Because cussing is fine, there is nothing wrong with it.

[s4ndm4n2006]

Originally Posted by stolemyheart87

Because cussing is fine, there is nothing wrong with it.

Again, that's your perspective and your mother doesn't agree. Keep in mind your view of things is yours and acceptable but not necessarily one that is fact. Whether a type of speaking, namely, cussing, is acceptable is an entirely subjective thing. Like whether or not someone is ok with nude photography. One may find it acceptable and another not. Would you then present nude photos to the person who finds it offensive? Even if you're ok with something, respect is about doing that which will avoid offending another person even if the behavior is acceptable to you.

[Trippin2.0]

Originally Posted by stolemyheart87

Because cussing is fine, there is nothing wrong with it.

Did you miss this part "And its perfectly ok if you don't perceive cussing as disrespectful, but then be respectful enough to understand that others do." Of my post?


Or purposefully ignore it?


If it is the latter, I suggest you accept the relationship between your mother as it is, and quit whining about it like a spoilt child, because you are clearly not interested in doing the mature thing and fixing your problem.

[stolemyheart87]

Well I will just try to stop cussing around my family then. Since my friends don't mind it and I still don't mind it.

[Rose76]

Wow, stolemyheart, your mother sounds awful. I don't think you should have to put up with that level of abuse. You should really give serious thought to running away from home. Even life as a teen-hooker on the street being beat up by a pimp would be better than the hell you are living in.

And what's up with you having to help your father lug in bags of groceries? Is he f##kin crippled or something? He bought the stuff. If he managed to get it into his vehicle, he can g#d-d@m well manage to get it into the house. You're not there to be a slave.

Stand up for yourself. Don't put up with this $h;t.

[stolemyheart87]

Haha I don't mind helping my parents out, I just don't like being told what to do, when I already know the drill, ya know? Anyway things are better now.

[~Christina]

I didn't realize you were also having trouble helping at home too, this might explain some of the issues in more current threads.

[LiteraryLark]

#1 How old are you?

#2 I directed foul language towards my mom...ONCE. She slapped me hard in the face. March of 2016 was the only time in the 23 years of my life I have ever used foul language to upset my mom. And I will never, ever do it again.

[healingme4me]

Originally Posted by stolemyheart87

, and I had said something like "Who gives a damn, if the dishes are in the sink" and she got mad I had said damn. Like really?


. And I said that to her "Its like **** I already ****ing know" and right away mom says "Don't talk to me like that, don't cuss at me, I don't like it."
.

Is it that you cussed or is it the tone used and not hearing what is unsettling to her about these interactions?

[stolemyheart87]

She just doesn't like my angry, attitude, and cussing. But I am working on it and her and I are getting along better, and things are going smoothly now.

[healingme4me]

Good to hear. Mother/Daughter relationships are something written about for ages. I've butted heads with my own mom many times. Shared as many tears as laughter.

[Rose76]

Originally Posted by stolemyheart87

She just doesn't like my angry, attitude, and cussing.

How picky!

[scorpiosis37]

If you don't like your parents' rules, then move out. You're an adult, right? If you want to talk the way you want, then you should be making your own money and paying your own rent. If you're living under your parents' roof, then you have to live by their rules.

[stolemyheart87]

I am living under their roof, and I am obeying their rules, just sometimes I get upset, and so do they, but in the end we all get along and try our best to keep everything under control and get along and all that stuff too. So no harm done.

[Rose76]

I think I saw in one of your other threads that you are in your late 20's. In one of my posts above, I was under the impression that you were a teenager.

Wonder why I ever thought that???

[stolemyheart87]

Everything is fine now, so this topic is closed.