[ComfortablyNumb5]

I've been crying all day here. First I was livid, now I'm heartbroken. Can someone please let me know if I'm in the wrong here? Maybe I'm not understanding something?

So I can't work right now because of my MI. If it wasn't for my bf helping me out till I get SS then I'd be homeless. We are broke. We have to shop at the dollar store for friggin groceries and drive one car because of gas prices. Well I couldn't pay my taxes because I can't work so my dad said he'd help out and I could pay him back. I told him I can't afford to pay him back so he said "well your sister does need a new car and you aren't driving yours so how about we trade?" I had no other choice but to say ok because I cannot pay him back. Mind you, my sisters car is old, been in multiple accidents because of the engine or wheels or something. My car, I only had for one year and only drove it probably once a week. It was a used car, but still had that new car smell. I paid $6100 for that car and my dad paid $2500 for my taxes and we traded cars, me thinking he would pay me the remainder or put what's left towards my future condo fees. That's a deal between my dad and I.

Then, I get a call from my brother, who lives with my dad, saying I needed to pay him (my brother) back for my taxes. Yea I'm confused too. So I said "I gave you guys a $6100 car so how do I owe YOU? Especially when this was between dad and I??" He kept sending me harassing texts and said "fine I'm kicking your bf's ***!" Uhm ok? What does my bf have to do with MY car and MY debt?? I spent hours explaining to him that I made a deal with my dad, who still owes me for the remainder!! The bad mouthing went on all night and I was shaking with rage. I had no choice but to block him and my dad from contacting me. Now I'm very confused here. How do I owe my BROTHER or ANY of them money?!

Pretty much I feel like they ripped me off. And my sister who has a good job and NO bills got the car!! So why doesn't she have to pay anything? How on earth do I owe them?! Am I missing something here?! Trust me I'm not leaving anything out here either. I'm very confused!!

My anger has turned to heartbreak and I NEVER cry. Didn't even know I had the heart left to cry. But now it's a new day, I've calmed down, and I'm so depressed (from bipolar). I've been in my bathroom crying on and off all day because I don't want my bf to see me cry. I don't let anyone see me cry.

So if I am wrong, can someone enlighten me? Because I feel very taken advantage of right now. I'm really not surprised as many people warned me that my dad would do this to me. I know my dad is friggin crooked but I never thought he'd do this to his own daughter.

[junkDNA]

did you and your dad specifically talk about how he would pay you back the remainder left from giving your sister the car? or is this just something you assumed?

[unaluna]

Maybe your brother is mad he didnt get anything, and your sister got the car. Tell him to get over himself, you dont owe him anything. He lives with your dad rent free, right? Tell him to STFU and get his drug money somewhere else. He knows hes a troublemaker, stay away from him. I stay away from my brother and hes a fine upstanding citizen

[divine1966]

It's terrible! Block your brother!

The only thing I am confused is how do you owe taxes if you don't work? 2500? And you don't work? I owed taxes last few years because I work two jobs and my day job is well paid. I can't imagine owing taxes not working? How?

[unaluna]

Originally Posted by divine1966

It's terrible! Block your brother!

The only thing I am confused is how do you owe taxes if you don't work? 2500? And you don't work? I owed taxes last few years because I work two jobs and my day job is well paid. I can't imagine owing taxes not working? How?

House taxes

[ComfortablyNumb5]

Originally Posted by junkDNA

did you and your dad specifically talk about how he would pay you back the remainder left from giving your sister the car? or is this just something you assumed?

Yes. I said "take the rest of what you owe me and just send it it to the condo co". He said "ok" and that was that.

And yes, it's house taxes.

[ComfortablyNumb5]

Originally Posted by unaluna

Maybe your brother is mad he didnt get anything, and your sister got the car. Tell him to get over himself, you dont owe him anything. He lives with your dad rent free, right? Tell him to STFU and get his drug money somewhere else. He knows hes a troublemaker, stay away from him. I stay away from my brother and hes a fine upstanding citizen

You hit the nail on the head there! Have we talked before? Lol. That's pretty much all he spends money on. Booze and pills. After much arguing last night he admitted that he's just broke right now and wants a few bucks! I said "so your hitting up your disabled little sister for booze money when I'm in this mess cuz I can't pay my bills or work as it is?!" That's exactly what I said. I haven't even seen my brother since I stopped drinking months ago. The only reason he ever called was to tell me to text my drug addict friend for him! So when I got sober, I stopped answering his calls because he's careless of my sobriety.

[unaluna]

We're sisters from a different planet

[TishaBuv]

I'm assuming the car is in your name, right? I'm also assuming you only made a verbal agreement with your father.

I think you should write up the agreement you made with him on a piece of paper. Spelling out the exact deal. He paid your tax, you let your sister use your car, how long until you get your car back. Put specific dates on these terms. Get your dad and you to sign it, even get a witness to sign.

If your dad refuses, do you have a spare key to your car? Just go take your car back. It's in your name. You can even report it stolen and get it back if you have to!

I don't care if they are family. Your brother is shaking you down for his drug money. Always get everything in writing.

Of course you aren't giving your brother any money. Tell him 'nice try'.

[Moogieotter]

Sorry Queenie. I hope it all works out.

I'm unclear as to what your brothers business is in all of this?

As far as I see it, it was an agreement between your dad and you.

I wouldn't stop contact with your dad. You need to talk to him to straighten out the details (record what he says for your own clarification).

Tell your brother to mind his own business...

[ComfortablyNumb5]

Originally Posted by sophiesmom

I'm unclear as to what your brothers business is in all of this?

As far as I see it, it was an agreement between your dad and you.

I wouldn't stop contact with your dad. You need to talk to him to straighten out the details (record what he says for your own clarification).

Tell your brother to mind his own business...

I'm just as confused as you are about why my brother is even part of this. It wasn't my dad that was texting me and talking crap. It was my bro. However my dad wasn't sticking up for me. I'll unblock my dad maybe tomorrow. Truth is I can't talk to them right now. I need one more day of quiet.

[BlueEyedMama]

I'm sorry that you are dealing with this. I would stay away from your brother for the most part and talk to your dad when you are ready. Try to clear up the deal with the car so that it's understood by both of you. Best of luck!!

[PlannedObsolescence]

Very easy solution. Go get your car back and sell it privately. Get $5k for it, pay your taxes and bank the rest for future use. You should have never have made this deal with there being so many unknowns.

[Crazy Hitch]

The whole thing sounds incredibly strange ... do what you can to distance yourself from your brother for the time being

[ComfortablyNumb5]

Ok well I talked to my dad today. He said he's paying another year of my taxes tomorrow plus giving me some cash! Neither of us mentioned my brother and I kept him blocked. So it looks like my dad came around and was just blowing hot air the other day. I swear I got my bipolar from him lol.