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I havent been on here in over a year it seems... but I'm glad to be back. The last time I was here I was in an unhealthy, emotionally abusive relationship. That relationship ended October of 2015, we tried to be friends but ultimately stopped speaking to each other in March of this year. I started dating someone in February knowing that I wasn't over my ex... I'm still with him today and plan on continuing for the foreseeable future. I still think about my ex frequently and feel like only recently I've actually "gotten over" him. Am I wrong in this situation?
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As long as you're honest that you're still processing it, I think it's okay. I've never agreed with putting life on hold after a breakup because doing so just makes one dwell more, not get over it.
I find it has helped me. I still have times of sadness, but they're not like they were, and I'm now in a positive and fulfilling relationship. Knowing there's possibility/relationship happiness after a breakup (especially coming from an abusive relationship) is critical. Some of us, like me, need to feel and experience that, not just know it in some abstract fashion.
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No, you are not wrong.
Your past relationship was abusive and destructive and your partner now can be your support system and your pillar of strength. |
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I agree with the others that you are not wrong. But I will say, based on my own experiences, it's best to be clear about your feelings about it with your current boyfriend if it's ever brought up.
I hadn't fully moved on from someone I've been with for 5 years while I dated two more people and when asked if I still had older feelings I always denied them. All that did was make things more tense and uncomfortable if I would have just been honest and said I wouldn't go back, but I wasn't over it. If the other person really cares for you they'll get past it, with you. |
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