[Koolz09]

This has been going on off and on since I was 3 years old. I'm high school aged. I can remember brief moments of being a 3 year old(I cannot git rid of these thoughts) and getting yelled at and slapped every time I would "bother" my father(crying, laughing, talking, running around). When I got older(9 years old) that is when I started getting hit(not spanked, there is a difference) whenever my father would get mad he would punch me a few times that doesn't happen as much, just now it is on and off. But 24/7 he calls me fat, stupid, ugly, worthless, failed abortion, and constantly tells me go hurt yourself. I'm not making this up. It is worse in the car when I sometimes have to go places with my parents, he will under his breath tell me to go hurt myself because I'm worthless to him. And when I tell him to stop saying things to me, he will yell louder and try to hit me. Do all parents do this? I'm homeschooled and don't have many friends, so I'm not sure how normal this is for parents.

This is not normal, acceptable or ok. You are being abused. Your father is a child abuser and needs professional help. You deserve to be safe and not physically and emotionally abused. (((Hugs)))

[TishaBuv]

It's child abuse. IMO, abusive parents should not be allowed to home school. I don't want to encourage you to do anything that causes your father to physically hurt you in retaliation, but I would tell you to get yourself into your local high school guidance counselor and report this abuse to the school and the police.

If you can't get help, hang in there until you are old enough to get out. Please reach out anywhere to get better role models. This is not an acceptable parenting relationship.

Is your mother just as abusive? Where is she in all this?

[divine1966]

Please call the police and report it. I agree about walking to a local school and ask for help. Or email local school. Or local homeschooling association. Do it now. You are being abused. Please do something ASAP

If you relay this to your school counselor they might remove you from the home and will certainly talk to your step dad about the abuse. I think this is appropriate action but want you to be warned that your world could get turned upside down before it improves. (((Hugs)))

[fairydustgirl]

I just want to put my 2 cents in, no this is not normal, this is straight up child abuse and looks like it has been going on since you were very little. which explains why you would even have to ask. I think it also explains why you are being homeschooled, your folks are keeping you away from people who would hear or take notice of how you are being treated. similar to what happens to abused spouses, they are isolated from family and friends and completely dependent upon their spouse.

my son had a friend who was being abused by his step dad, he was 17 when he finally tried to get help and in his case child protective services did nothing, despite ph calls from teachers, the counselor and myself. I took him to the juvenile and domestic relations officers to talk to them, the intake officer came out to the lobby and asked me point blank if I would take custody of him. I went as far as petitioning the court but he panicked and changed his mind. the good news is that the mom kicked out/divorced step dad and the boy was safe. I'm not even sure she knew he was doing this to her son all that time.

I do hope you are able to find some help but it is true that your world could turn upside down, worst case scenario no one does anything and your dad retaliates against you for telling on him. Is there a safe place, relatives or some distant family friend you could go to if you need to get away?

Hugs to you sweetie, I will be praying for you

[Erebos]

Please do not listen to this man (I hesitate to call him your father) cos I assure you thIs is NOT acceptable behaviour for ANY person to inflict on another. This is especiallyq heinous considering this man is suppose to be your care giver, your rock and your role model.

Listen to the above posters and please try and seek help from an authority figure but be careful.
All the best and take care.
This girl eí

[Acorn Oaktree]

um......I'm speechless. I'm so sorry you have been living with such abuse. I'm in tears.
Please get help for yourself. Get help for yourself first, and then deal with the rest.
You do not deserve to be treated like that. Can you see if there's a safe house or a group home, or more importantly someone who you trust to keep you safe you can go to? Please get out of your house as soon as you can. Please don't let this continue. You are worth so much more than your father thinks, and I think you know that too. Please.
I'm sending my energy out to the universe for you.

[Koolz09]

Originally Posted by TishaBuv

It's child abuse. IMO, abusive parents should not be allowed to home school. I don't want to encourage you to do anything that causes your father to physically hurt you in retaliation, but I would tell you to get yourself into your local high school guidance counselor and report this abuse to the school and the police.

If you can't get help, hang in there until you are old enough to get out. Please reach out anywhere to get better role models. This is not an acceptable parenting relationship.

Is your mother just as abusive? Where is she in all this?

She is usually on his side, and treats me like I'm the one in the wrong when this happens.

Originally Posted by Koolz09

She is usually on his side, and treats me like I'm the one in the wrong when this happens.

Then I'm sorry to tell you this but both of your parents are abusers. (((Hugs)))

[PumpkinPieHead]

Koolz, I was homeschooled and I too, did not know I was abused as a kid until I got out as an adult.

If I were back in that position, I would have called the police in a heartbeat. Find the non-emergency #, and do it ASAP.

[MickeyCheeky]

That's so horrible.. I'm really sorry to hear this Call the police and find some help.. it's for your own good.

[Unrigged64072835]

No, most parents don't hit and tell their kids to harm themselves. I'm in agreement with getting other adults involved for your own wellbeing.

[Koolz09]

Originally Posted by MickeyCheeky

That's so horrible.. I'm really sorry to hear this Call the police and find some help.. it's for your own good.

Someone I know has tried calling them a while back when I told them what was going on, I'm kinda hesitant to call them. Because the time
my friend did, my father put on an act and had the cops side with him making me look like the bad guy.