Running Into an Ex

stolemyheart87 · Oct 28, 2016, 09:03 PM

Next weekend I will be going to a concert and I am afraid I may be running into my ex-Boyfriend I broke up with in May of this year. IF I do run into him, should I talk to him or ignore him, or does it not matter? When him and I broke up, he cut ties with me altogether, blocking me on all social media and phone contact, so if we did see one another at this concert, he may not even talk to me but what if he does? I don't know what to do or think. What would you do in this situation?

And I am only asking because this concert venue is small capacity like 100-300 max. So us seeing one another is very likely.

gayleggg · Oct 29, 2016, 09:14 AM

I would leave it in his ballpark by not speaking unless he speaks to you. That gives him the choice of whether to converse or not. If you speak to him first you might get no reply so be ready for the cold shoulder if he hasn't let go of the pain of the breakup.

TishaBuv · Oct 29, 2016, 09:20 AM

What do you want to do if you see him? Do you want to say hi? Do you feel like ignoring him?

Summerhex · Oct 29, 2016, 10:45 AM

I agree with ignoring him unless he talks to you, but you also need to think about if you want to talk to him and what you want to do if he approaches you.

Bill3 · Oct 30, 2016, 06:53 AM

What were the circumstances that led to the breakup?

Oct 30, 2016, 07:04 AM

I would just smile and nod if you make eye contact. That way you are being friendly but not pushy or stalkery. lol

Crazy Hitch · Oct 31, 2016, 02:09 AM

Let him see you having fun. Don't go out of your way to say hi to him, but if by chance he says hi to you, give him a brief hi.

Oct 31, 2016, 02:25 AM

As he cut all ties and blocked you I would let him make the first move. Do you think he is expecting to see you there?

stolemyheart87 · Nov 03, 2016, 11:40 AM

Well when him and I were together before the break up, I told him I was getting tickets for this concert, and if he and I were still together, he would go with. BUT since we broke up, his extra ticket is going to be sold. BUT BUT I found out, by snooping on his Facebook, after making a new account, that he posted that he bought tickets to the same concert, so he has his own tickets, and plans to go to this show, even if I am there. So us running into each other, in a small place, that holds likely 100 to 300 people is highly possible.

But as you said, since he did block me on all accounts, I doubt he will talk to me or try to hunt me down at this show. But then again who knows really. Part of me wants to talk to him, but part of me does not, because he did hurt me while him and I were together and if we did talk and decide to get back together, I wouldn't want to get back with him, because I know we would just have the same repeating cycle like before.

Him and I broke up because we would fight every day, he didn't want to hang out with me or spend time with me, or spend money on me, or even if I offered to pay for our outing, he didn't want to come and see me, because he didn't want me to get mad at him, and we would just fight about this same thing over and over again. It got too much for us to handle and was too stressful for us so we ended it.

stolemyheart87 · Nov 03, 2016, 11:43 AM

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Originally Posted by ElsaMars

As he cut all ties and blocked you I would let him make the first move. Do you think he is expecting to see you there?

Him and I broke up because we fought a lot, like everyday it got too much for us so we had to break up, because even when we made up, we would fight right after so it had to end.

When him and I were together, I had told him about this concert and that I was going to buy tickets, if him and I were still together, we would go, if we broke up, I would sell his ticket.

Him and I broke up so he went and bought his own tickets and he is going to this same concert, that I am going too. And it being a small sized venue fitting 100-300 people, it is highly possible we will see each other MAYBE.

Do I wanna talk to him, part of me does, and part of me does not. I don't want to get back with him because he did hurt me a lot, and I know I hurt him a lot, and the same cycle will happen again anyway.

s4ndm4n2006 · Nov 03, 2016, 02:33 PM

100 to 300 people is small enough that you might see him, but large enough potentially that you could easily avoid him too, depending on what you want to do. I wouldn't go out of my way to say hi, it seems like your goal is not to. So in the unlikely case, since he blocked you on everything, that he wants to say hi, be cordial and respond but quickly excuse yourself from the interaction, politely.

stolemyheart87 · 08:18 PM

Yeah I am just going to ignore him if I do see him. IF He decides to talk to me, I will be nice and just chat briefly and thats it.

But who knows maybe he will show up to this show WITH SOMEONE NEW. Ha that would be a twist. I am going with my dad because he wants to see this band and venue, but otherwise I am going by myself and meeting a few friends, if I can find them, we plan to call or text to meet up. So again if I do see him, with someone or without someone I will likely ignore him.

stolemyheart87 · Nov 05, 2016, 04:58 PM

Well last night happened, I went to the concert and DID NOT see my ex-Boyfriend amongst the crowd of people there. So I DO NOT KNOW if he was there or not. BUT I did see this on his social media page about last night's concert "Anyone interested in seeing i am ghost? I have another ticket for tonight show."

So again not sure if he was even there or not. Either way, I had a great time!

divine1966 · Nov 05, 2016, 09:38 PM

How do you see his page if he blocked you on social media?

BreakForTheLight · Nov 06, 2016, 03:27 AM

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Originally Posted by divine1966

How do you see his page if he blocked you on social media?

She made a new account to snoop on his Facebook.

OP, you seem like you're still obsessed with this ex.... I think you need to take a step back and let it go. Stop reading his social media.

stolemyheart87 · Nov 06, 2016, 03:31 PM

I'm not obsessed I am just curious as to how his life is going and if he has anyone new haha. Whats wrong with snooping, everyone spys on their ex's or old friends that cut them off.

Trippin2.0 · Nov 07, 2016, 10:48 AM

No everyone does not.

The idea is to move on, not look back.

And when you go to such great lengths to get a peak... Well yeah its kinda obsessive / stalkerish

We're all grown ups here, lets call a spade a spade.

stolemyheart87 · Nov 07, 2016, 12:23 PM

Oh please I know a lot of people who stalk or peak in on their ex's or friends of theirs. There's no harm in it.

Nov 07, 2016, 12:51 PM

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Originally Posted by stolemyheart87

I'm not obsessed I am just curious as to how his life is going and if he has anyone new haha. Whats wrong with snooping, everyone spys on their ex's or old friends that cut them off.

Not everyone. When I cut someone off, I avoid contact of any kind. Ever heard the saying "curiosity killed the cat". I believe that by snooping, you are hindering your progress in getting over this person. Do yourself a favor and try to refrain from spying. You will heal quicker. (((Hugs)))

divine1966 · Nov 07, 2016, 07:49 PM

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Originally Posted by stolemyheart87

I'm not obsessed I am just curious as to how his life is going and if he has anyone new haha. Whats wrong with snooping, everyone spys on their ex's or old friends that cut them off.

No not everyone does that. Some people keep in touch with exes and some don't. But not everyone snoops behind their back. Also if someone block you it means they don't want to keep in touch. Making fake accounts and snooping isn't what everyone does at all

~Christina · Nov 07, 2016, 09:00 PM

Ex's are Ex's for a "R e a s o n"

Break ups were much more simple in my growing up into lots of my adulthood. No social media bullshyyt to think about. My advice....

You're not a teenager, be an adult

TishaBuv · Nov 08, 2016, 09:53 AM

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Originally Posted by ~Christina

Ex's are Ex's for a "R e a s o n"

Break ups were much more simple in my growing up into lots of my adulthood. No social media bullshyyt to think about. My advice....

You're not a teenager, be an adult

We had to stalk the old fashioned way, by driving past their house, peeking in their windows, jk, lol.

s4ndm4n2006 · Nov 08, 2016, 02:09 PM

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Originally Posted by stolemyheart87

Well last night happened, I went to the concert and DID NOT see my ex-Boyfriend amongst the crowd of people there. So I DO NOT KNOW if he was there or not. BUT I did see this on his social media page about last night's concert "Anyone interested in seeing i am ghost? I have another ticket for tonight show."

So again not sure if he was even there or not. Either way, I had a great time!

you're worried about running into him yet you follow his social media? do you see how this doesn't seem right? I will be completely honest with you and although I can't say for sure the extent of it, you seem to be too worried about things related to this ex. You tell me. If you want to be rid of someone that you wanted to ignore at a concert if you saw them, I would think you would want nothing to do with seeing what they post on social media.

~Christina · Nov 08, 2016, 04:08 PM

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Originally Posted by TishaBuv

We had to stalk the old fashioned way, by driving past their house, peeking in their windows, jk, lol.

LOL so true !

s4ndm4n2006 · Nov 08, 2016, 05:04 PM

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Originally Posted by stolemyheart87

Oh please I know a lot of people who stalk or peak in on their ex's or friends of theirs. There's no harm in it.

I disagree, unless there is a good relationship following a break up and the two remain friends, the only reason to check up on an ex is to get dirt on them or feed some underlying feeling that remains.

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