[Crazygrl882]

I know this doesn't fit into this forum but there is no good place for this question.

I used to feel like my friend and I were sisters. We were super close and I even went to family holiday events with her and she went to mine. When my cat died she automatically came over and provided comfort and helped me through my divorce.

Now, I would still be there for her no matter what but she isn't there for me. I have this problem with every friend... I always seem to lose them. I don't know why I am not a person people like. Guys seem to want to date me but girls don't want to stay my friend. I hurt myself the other day and would have thought she'd ask if I needed anything as she lives 5 minutes away but when I asked if she wanted to stop by she just said she was busy and never returned my text or asked if I needed anything. She's also leaving me alone for Thanksgiving. She didn't tell me what she's doing but knows I'll be alone and is just leaving it that way. It's really hurting me.

I know I have problems but I don't think it's super apparent. We had a little tiff on my birthday... She drinks a lot when she goes out. I don't know if she's going through something...

I just want a friend who stays my friend. I lost a close friend in the last city I lived in and moved across the country so I could like close to this friend again and now I feel like I wasted this over $8000 I spent to move. I think I might be too clingy. Help!

Sorry to hear things are not working out. If you think you are being too clingy, then maybe she just needs some space right now.

Also, if you spent $8000 to move across the country in order to live close to your friend, I'd say that seems unhealthy. Hopefully there were other benefits to moving across the country.

[Crazygrl882]

Originally Posted by scaredandconfused

Sorry to hear things are not working out. If you think you are being too clingy, then maybe she just needs some space right now.

Also, if you spent $8000 to move across the country in order to live close to your friend, I'd say that seems unhealthy. Hopefully there were other benefits to moving across the country.

Yes.... My new pdoc said it's pretty common for people with bipolar disorder to relocate. I've relocated too many times in the past couple years. I also relocated because I was sick of the winter and wanted to move back to a nicer climate. But I didn't have a job lined up or anything.... I think I was slightly manic. I wish my pdoc in that city would have advised me not to move because it seemed badly planned and too impulsive when I really think about it..... Now I'm just feeling so sad and tearful about the move and friends and everything...

[Yours_Truly]

I'm really sorry you're going through this with your friend. I've been through a similar situation so I understand your feelings. It still hurts me to this day.

I do hope your friend comes back around for you.

[LaDauphine]

It doesn't sound like people don't like you! It sounds like you've had lots of friends throughout the course of your life. I believe you are a very likable and lovable person, .

Relationships change. All the time. And quickly, too! So many factors contribute to the life or death of a friendship and most of the mare truly not personal.

She could, perhaps be at a completely different stage in her life than you are. It doesn't mean she's better than you. Or you better than her. Things are just different.

Sometimes, you just grow out of people.

Don't stress about this. Another friend will come along. The thing is, they will probably leave, too. Lifelong friends are hard to get and it has nothing to do with you being worthy of it. Life just gets int he way,