Strange

So, the newest guy I'm talking to wouldn't give me his number when I asked if we could text, but instead suggested we use KIK, which I agreed to. I'm not overly attached to him, so why not? We talked about meeting up on KIK and a few other things but that only lasted one night. I have hit him up twice in two days since then to talk and he only replied with a "hello".

Methinks he ain't interested.....

Just a hint: let the guy ask for your number and initiate things, at least at first. Guys usually don't like girls to initiate things. They like to take the lead ....

But the dating website said guys find women who take the lead attractive.

And the guy was taking forever to ask me. I don't have forever. If the guy doesn't like an empowered woman doing things her way, then he's not the guy for me.

Fair enough. Good luck.

It's ok to initiate and I am all for empowerement. I am not shy lol but we can't force other people to like us. it has to be give and take after that initial step. The guy isn't interested. He didn't want to give his number and only said hello in two days. Time to move on. There is nothing wrong in continue initiating but do watch for signs of lack of resiprocation on their part.

Meh...disheartening to know he was a waste of my time. Why do guys always play this stupid game? What's the deal? Jerks...

By the way, it has nothing to do with empowered women, but he might think you are desperate or something. Guys like to chase girls, especially when girls play difficult to get. The website and guys may say otherwise, but the reality is the judge. It doesn't mean you cannot do things your own way, but it doesn't have to be direct. Be patient.

He was the one who contacted me initially. I just asked for his number when he asked for a picture of my hair. It was a natural progression, I thought. Guys are too weird and play too many games. JUST EFFING BE DIRECT FOR ONCE IN YOUR EFFING LIVES!!!!!

God...if it wasn't for the psychic telling me I have a husband to be out there somewhere, I'd be so done with them. I really would.

This is the dating game. Don't take things personally. He could've said he isn't interested directly to you (if this is really the case), but I imagine it wouldn't have made a big difference.

Dating isn't a game. It really isn't. Dating is straight forward and serious business.

You shouldn't have to jump through ridiculous hoops for someone anyways. Most men don't seem to have gotten that memo and are demanding all sorts of nonsensical shyte these days of me.

Could it happen to you that you talk to someone, and after you talk to him, you become not interested for what ever reason? and what would you do then? It happened to me a couple of times (all the time girls replied me); I would talk to some girls, they first replied, and then nothing. I didn't blame them, it just happened they weren't interested and they expressed it in not replying, which was fine to me. They could have not replied me in the first place, but they chose to reply first but then not. I guess the cyber world gives you more room to ignore people, which isn't nice, but also saying you aren't interested isn't nice either.

Well either way, it's really his loss. I'm an awesome woman and he just lost the opportunity of a lifetime not getting to know me better. Men usually do.

It's not about being an awesome person (although I'm sure you are!) It's about finding the right fit. Everyone has different interests and beliefs, and is looking for comparability. I've done online dating in the past, and I was looking for something specific. When I realized someone just wasn't right for me (even if they were great), I stopped the conversation. No use is wasting anyone's time. I wouldn't invest too much in anyone until you've met in person. When I've talked to people online, I've usually been able to rule people out pretty quickly-- for instance, I don't like anyone who comes across as "pushy," I am turned off by poor grammar and the use of "text speak" or lots of emojis, and I am not religious. If I contact someone with a great profile, but they start hitting on one of those deal breakers right away-- that's simply the end of it. I'm sure you must have your own deal breakers, too.

No, I'm pretty sure it's just that I'm too awesome for them to handle.

I think he is probably married with kids...that's why he talks on kik and doesn't really reply back...he probably isn't what he really seems...

It happened to me during my online dating times that I talked to a person once and then decided not to talk anymore, maybe they thought I am a jerk too. He maybe changed his mind. I don't think rejecting someone before even meeting them makes one a jerk. Or he might be married. When he refused to give his number and suggested some other venue (Kik?), it was a red flag right there. Who really knows. Don't let strangers upset you like this

Thats been my experience when they dont want to give their number.

He asked for a picture of your hair???

We just went into a whole other thread with another poster that the idea that guys like to chase is not true. I've initiated plenty of contact with guys on my own and always done fine with them. In my experience guys don't mind a girl contacting them first at all. Times have changed and so have the roles of men and women in dating.

I don't think a stranger owes anyone anything in this situation. He might have been vaguely interested but maybe was turned off by something that you said or maybe he found someone else more his type.. You don't know each other, you're each just sifting through possible matches to see if there's anyone you'd like to meet. You thought he might be your type and he for whatever reason doesn't. That must happen frequently with online dating, so you can't let it bother you and also you can't get attached to the idea of a stranger.

I haven't met any men who objected women initiating. But that's IF he is interested. Just because a woman contacted a man it doesn't mean he must start dating her. It's no matter who contacts who as long as both parties are interested. Just because someone isn't interested it doesn't mean they objected to being contacted in general or are jerks, he might just not be interested

Many questions come to a guy's mind for why a girl has contacted him. He might continue, but not without caution, unless he's desperate, I guess. Things might have started to change, but the vast majority still do it the traditional way, and it has nothing to do with equality, as some might think. It's just the natural order of things. Again, women aren't passive in forming relationships.