Appropriate time of day to send a text?

I actually think of a different reason not to talk all day. If you tend to attach to people and like guys way before meeting them and then it doesn't go anywhere, so it's wise not to get attached before you even meet them.

We haven't discussed everything under the sun yet. The topic of sex, or sexual innuendos hasn't really come up. I'm purposely refraining from doing that because it's not appropriate conversation for this stage in a developing relationship. At least I hope it'll be a relationship. He could see me in person, not like what he sees and we never say a word to each other afterword. It's not like it hasn't happened before.

I do have this fear sitting in the back of my head that he'll see that I'm plus sized, and is not into such girls. I mean, not every guy is into a larger women. However, it's not like I'm massively obese either. I think I'm about average for an woman in America, by which I mean I'm not super model thin, but I'm not so obese that walking from the couch to the fridge is laborious. I have a bit of a second chin, and a not exactly flat belly. But on the flipside, my chest and backside are very curvaceous.

Part of me feels like my size hinders my chances for potential dates and this makes my confidence falter quite a bit. However, my more sensible side says that if all those particular guys care about is size, then maybe they aren't for me. I don't have time for guys who value appearance above personality. Not that all guys are this way.

Anyways, what was I saying? Ah yes, texting. I guess I'll see how it goes with this guy.

Actually I can see your point in this and it makes sense. I mean on the one hand yeah I agree that can happen but isn't that the case with a relationship anyway, that it's a risk, you might get attached either way? it's all really just weighing whether it's worth getting into in the first place

To be honest, everyone has good points and such but it really is that there is no specific rule to abide by here, every individual is different therefore every relationship has different rules and meanings. Some say chase is good, other say that chasing in a relationship isn't right. Some like to keep the mystery, others want transparency up front. Who knows which is right, right down to how often, when and what to say in texting.

Use your best judgment. and if possible find out what is ok with him and right for you both.

Hasn't he seen your photo?

There are plenty of guys into women of all sizes.

Sure, there's a chance you may not be attracted to each other or something may be done or said on the date that will cause you to never have a second date or even speak ever again.

Haven't you seen a photo of him, too?

Yes it's always a risk but I was talking specifically about artchic. There have been several men who she really liked and had big hopes way before they met and at the end she was hurt every time. There is no need to get attached to people before even meeting them if you have tendency to attach to strangers and think they might be the one every time. It's better to at least meet them first imho

very true. good point.

It's important to have realistic picture of yourself on s dating site . As well as being realistic in describing ourselves. Lots of men don't care about weight but they need to have an idea of how you look before a date.

Yes, we've seen photos of each other. I'm trying to only have him see the best photos of me before we meet each other in person. I guess I just have no clue how to make myself look flattering in photos, but I've got at least a few I like and have shared with him.

Good. Then he knows what to expect, and he was attracted to you enough to ask you out.

I suppose you're right.

I never thought you were that large, Artchic. Just dress to impress and be confident. That's sexier than anything: confidence.

I find longer tops like tunics or cardigans over black pants flattering

I plan on wearing my cute and comfortable dark skinny jeans and a black sweater with a sort of loose neckline that hangs in folds in the front. Over that I'm wearing either going to wear a long beige cardigan, or my silvery grey trench style raincoat if it's raining. I also might borrow a pair of my mom's ankle boots, because I think that'll look cuter.

Ad good outfit, right?

I'm thinking about you tonight. My h and I must know all there is to know about each other. We don't even say that much to each other on a regular day. We only text about chores that have to get done, we talk for a few minutes about a couple of things that happen during our day, he sits with me while we watch tv while he reads stories on his iphone. I was trying to think about something to say, it was really a stretch, I just didn't. We're the most boring people in the world after all the things to say have run out.

I have to admit that we probably developed the dysfunctional sexual problem to try to force some passion where there just isn't any spark.

I don't know about other people's marriages, but savor that getting acquainted time because that kind of energy doesn't last.

The getting aquainted time? Is that what is known as the "honeymoon period"? Well, my answer to this is simply my favorite Bruce Lee quote.

"Love is like a friendship caught on fire. In the beginning a flame, very pretty, often hot and fierce, but still only light and flickering. As love grows older, our hearts mature and our love becomes as coals, deep-burning and unquenchable."